Is forgetting really part of forgiving?

Question

I don't think it is because when you remember what they did again you at leastt think a little less of them all over again which is why I think complete forgiveness by a human is not possible.

Answer 1

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Answer 2

I do not know but I can tell you how it is with me. I do not forgive for 100 per cent. To do so I would have to completely forget what has gone wrong and it is not possible because you simply remember things that happen to you.

I think forgiving is about accepting that people make mistakes and change. Everything changes. So in my opinion to forgive we need to accept imperfection of humans.

Answer 3

It is VERY hard to forget when someone has wronged you.  The best way is to "heap coals of fire on their heads" by doing kindnesses for them.  It's the only way to keep yourself from a hurt growing inside of you like a cancer.  In time, you will forget.  You just have to keep pushing it in the back of your mind.  To answer your question directly, Yes, I do think forgetting is part of forgiving.

Answer 4

Well you have to forgive them and then act as nothing happened because you forgave them, so yes. heard of forgive and forget

Answer 5

Forgetting and forgiving are two dramatically different things.

When we forgive, we don't do it for the other person; we do it for ourselves. What is done is done, but our decision to let it go (forgive) and move forward benefits us. Anger and bitterness cripple us and serve no purpose in the long run. To forgive frees us of all that so that we can go on without dragging all that baggage with us.

Every experience has a lesson. We don't "forget" because we use the information gathered to help us in the future. When we talk about "forgive and forget," the "forgetting" part is not literal. It should be "forgive and let go."

Once something happens, it is done and in the past. Remembering it over and over and over, analyzing it past what's healthy in an effort to learn, griping about it and holding against someone is a waste of time. It is better to put it aside (forget) after we take the lesson from it (so that it perhaps won't happen again) and get on with it.

"Forget" does not mean to develop amnesia about the incident. It means to put it aside and move on.

Answer 6

no, forgiving is knowing and understanding the harm/mistake/whatever and moving on.  Forgetting is a totally different deal.

Answer 7

Wel, you can forgive sum1, but it's kinda hard to forget sumthing, even if u want to. But that duznt make u a bad person.

Answer 8

That is what Jehovah has done for our indiscretions. Can we do any less?

(Psalm 103:12) . . .As far off as the sunrise is from the sunset, So far off from us he has put our transgressions.

Answer 9

Complete forgiveness is possible.  It helps a lot to really see things from the offender's perspective.  Keep in mind that forgiving does not mean condoning what they did, or denying the wrongness.  But the other answers are right, forgetting is not necessarily included in the forgiveness process...for instance, a murder that affects you personally certainly would not be forgotten.

Answer 10

It takes a Saint to fully forgive, and so that is why there will never be a statue monument made for my likeness.

Too much pain and hurt.