Is forgetting your parents' wedding anniversary a big deal?

Question

Its their 20th, and yes I forgot! Its not like they were expecting presents or anything but they probably wanted a card! Help!

Answer 1

If you're a teenager (or just a forgetful person in general) then I'd say it isn't a big deal. (They probably weren't expecting anything). NO OFFENSE! But if you still feel really bad about it, just tell them how you feel and that it was an honest mistake. They're your parents, they'll understand.  

Answer 2

I wouldn't worry about it too much...

Answer 3

I don't remember enless my parents remind me that's its coming. So I don't think that should be a big deal. There's to many birthdays, things, that are going on now to remember simple things like that. =] I say your fine, it happeneds next year you'll know. Mark it in your calendar now.  

Answer 4

I Don't think it's a biggie if you forgot it, but if your Dad forgot it....different Story!

Answer 5

wedding anniversaries are for the couple to celebrate.  Only milestone anniversaries need to be marked by children or other family.

d**n, you missed a milestone one.  Send them a happy belated and start thinking about what you'd like to do for them for the 25th & 30th.

Answer 6

Do they still love you? It's not the siblings job to remember those kind of things. It's the parents job, or should I say DADS, other wise DAD might get the no talking too or cold shoulder from mom. Besids that , half the time moms and dads can't remember when they were married anyways. Not to worry. Just remember them when there old. That is what counts.

Answer 7

It's not a big deal unless you or they make a big deal about it. Just send them a be-lated anniversary card and apologize for it being late.

I honestly never got my parents an anniversary card (when they were married).... well maybe once when I was 8. Just tell them it slipped your mind, they should understand. :-)

Answer 8

Hey June 4th was my parents 20th too....I did the same thing!!!lol but i saved myself that day buy making a card on the puter and saying "What you thought I forgot"". give them some money and tell them to go have un see a movie andgot to dinner. Maybe it'll be all right say you were saving the gift for the weekend so they could go out??? hope this helps!!

Answer 9

YES! You have got to get them a late card,and apologize, or hide it where they'll find it.

Answer 10

I think you are in the clear. As long as your dad remembered it is all okay. I don't think kids are expected to remember those things. Birthdays, mother's day and father's day are much more important.

Answer 11

Hmm... no, it isn't. Not at all!!! I mean they ARE your parents, but who cares? It's just a stupid 20th anniversary right?

Answer 12

Its not as bad as forgetting their birthday. So no its not that big of a deal. Just get them a card and tell them "I hope you didn't think I forgot about you. Sorry its kinda late. Happy anniversary!"

Answer 13

Meh... not much you can do now.  Depends on the family.  I don't even know when my parent's anniversary is.  I think they have been married 28 years or so.... maybe???  I honestly think it is weird for anyone else to celebrate it besides the couple unless it is a milestone anniversary like 25 years or 50 years or something.....

Answer 14

If you love your parents, then recognizing special days that are important to them - is important.  It's just common courtesy really.

Answer 15

Yes its a big deal...to them. You're lucky you have parents that have been married for 20 years, its a big deal. At least get them a card.

Answer 16

The best thing you could do now is get them a belated card and/or gift.

Answer 17

hmm I don't think I'd care if my kids forgot mine. Its a special day for my hubby and I, not really pertinent to the children.

Answer 18

Yeah, it's a big deal--but not the end of the world.  Do you live far from them?  If so, then mail a card ASAP.  If you live close, just drop the card by & say "I meant to give this to you last time I was over, but forgot it was in the glovebox of my car!" (small lie--oops!).

They'll forgive you--especially if you're a really busy person--plus, c'mon--you're their daughter!

Answer 19

well..a card is always nice.

but yeah...even i forget their anniversary...of c**p..i think it was yesterday...august 5th?

gosh!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 20

to me it only counts if it's the 50th

Answer 21

i guess..but it's not as bad as forgetting their birthdays.

Answer 22

umm.... make a surprise party...

just to make up for it... just say that you couldn't put it on the anniversary...

or... make them renew their vows.. with a great dinner...  

Answer 23

not really it took me years to remember when my parents anniversary was. just get them a card now and tell them you wont forget next time. its the thought that counts.

Answer 24

no, it doesn't matter, especially if you weren't there when they got married.

Answer 25

i guess its not such a big deal. but still you could go buy a late card. i mean better late then never right?

Answer 26

well send a card now..and be like "sorry it was late Happy 20th anniversary"  

Answer 27

oh well

Answer 28

Some families make everything a big deal, and some don't care much.  I guess if it bothers you, you could maybe give them a gift certificate to a nice restaurant, so they could go out together.  Just be honest and tell them you forgot.

Things are SO rushed anymore, we ALL forget things.  I have to keep a list, and a calendar.  :)