Is getting married at 21 to young even though you've been dating for 5 years?

Question

I'm dating this man who is in fact my first boyfriend, my first kiss, my first everything lol. Anyways we have been dating now for 4 in half years going on 5 years he asked me to marry him and I said yes but others dis-agree and keep telling me I am much to young. We have been living together now for 1 year so I know what it is like living with him and everything. Do I care what "others" think to much? We plan on getting married on our 5 year anniversary 8-20-2008. Is getting married at 21 much to young??

Answer 1

I DONT THINK IT IS I MYSLEF AM 21 AND GOT MARRIED ON JUNE 27TH OF LAST MONTH AS LONG AS U TRUELY LOVE EACHOTHER IS ALL THAT MATTERS AND ALWAYS REMEMBER COMMUICATION IS THE KEY AS LONG AS U KEEP THAT U'LL KEEP EACHOTHER PEOPLE WERE TELLING ME THE SAMETHING BUT I KNEW WHAT I WANTED AND IT WAS 2 SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH THE ONLY MAN I HAVE TRUELY EVER LOVED

Answer 2

No I got married at age 20. Readiness depends on maturity level not age.

Answer 3

its not too young at all.

Answer 4

Age is only a number dear. Everyone matures and experiences things at different ages. If you feel ready then there shouldn't be anything stopping you. Yes, you are young - but that doesn't mean you are making the wrong decision. I think no matter when you get married there is always going to be someone that thinks they know better and have to say something to you. You just can't listen to them. Follow your heart - it knows what is right.

Answer 5

Not at all! I agree with the first poster. Its the maturity and readiness that counts.

Answer 6

You are still young and will change as you mature, especially in the next few years.  But as long as you and your beau know that now and willing to accept and stick with one another through the process, you might as well make it official since you are already  living together.

Answer 7

I don't think age really matters when it comes to marriage.  I think the reason why people are telling you that you're too young to get married is because he's your only boyfriend and your only experience.  They are saying you are young in the sense that you haven't had much experience in exploring and finding out what you want in a guy.  They might be worried that later on down the road, you might begin to question whether there is better out there...whether this is the most you can love a man and whether this is the happiest you can be with a man.  If your answers to those questions are yes, and you are completely sure of your feelings and commitment to him, then I don't see a problem at getting married at your age.  Being that you and your bf have been together for quite some time (longer than many others who decide to get married), and that you two have been living together, you 2 have a pretty good idea of what married life would be like between you 2.  However, keep in mind that living together as boyfriend-girlfriend is not the same as living together as husband-wife.  Good luck...and I wish you love and happiness in the end.

Answer 8

I don't think 21 is too young; it depends on both of you. You'll have to work incredibly hard to keep communication open and compromise, especially as you continue to change and mature over the next few years. Stick with it though and I'm sure you will be happy.

Answer 9

Most couples who shack up before marriage get divorced.  Even more so when they are under 25.

Answer 10

If the idea of spending the rest of your life with him makes you happy than you should of course, if not you may want to rethink some things. It sounds like you really love him, though so go for it!

Answer 11

I to agree with the first post. so go for it !

Answer 12

Dont listen to anyone who tells you that. Only you know if your relationship is strong enough for marraige. Age doesnt matter, your love for each other and ability to live well togther do. If you know without a doubt that you will spend your life with him, s***w what everyone else thinks. Most of them are bitter because of thier own failed relationships

Answer 13

No

Answer 14

Not at all! My parents go married when they were 21 and they are celebrating their 25th wedding anniversary this august. If you feel ready for marriage then you should go for it. Hope everything works out and good luck