Is going to my future husband's homeland a bad idea for our honeymoon? We'll be with his family!?

Question

We've already discussed going to another country but I don't want to be the 'mean' one by saying no to the offer of spending our honeymoon with his family. I appreciate any advice anyone can give me on this.

Answer 1

Eww, I wouldn't!!  I mean, I think it's cool to go to a country where he has family for your honeymoon, but I think you should only stop in and visit them one day out of your trip, not hang out with them every day, and especially not staying with them!!!!  A honeymoon is supposed to be for the bride and the groom to start married life in a romantic way.  I was originally pushing to invite our friends along on our honeymoon cruise next summer, since my fiance and I always have sort of a "the more the merrier" outlook on things- but then I think we both thought better of it and decided to make it about the two of us instead, and I'm glad we did.  We can go on a trip with friends and family some other time!

Answer 2

just suggest it would be nice to spend a day or two with the family, a dinner or activiiny maybe the rest of the time should be spent just the two fo you!

Answer 3

So long as you are staying at a hotel and not with his family, I think it would be fine - especially if that family cannot get to the wedding to attend.

My fiance & I are planning to postpone our honeymoon because our families are making an effort to travel from far away to attend our wedding and we want to stay around home and visit with them for the week after our wedding.

Answer 4

I think it would be a good idea! But only you can really decide if you really wanna go. Going to his homeland could be a very good expeirience, with the new culture and new ideas. But it could also be a bad one. I see the dilema. Your best bet is to talk to him about it a little bit more. You can always visit his homeland after the honeymoon.

Hope you have a good wedding!! =]] And have many aniversaries to come! ♥

Answer 5

Ugh, I think spending your honeymoon with ANYONE other than each other is a bad idea. This is supposed to be a time to bond, to recover from the stress of the wedding, to... um... be intimate, and to get to know each other better. Save the family vacation for a few months after your wedding. Your honeymoon should be just about the two of you.

Answer 6

My husband's Italian and althugh his parents live in Britain (like us), the rest of his family live in a small town in southern Italy. When we were married four years ago, we took three weeks honeymoon - the first two weeks we spent alone, one week in venice, one in Rome.  The third week, we met up with his parents in their home town of Alvignano and spent the week meeting the family and doing various day trips.  My parents came out there for the week too, and it was great, a real integration of cultures and a lovely way to meet everyone.  It was also nice to come back into the fold of the families first rather than arrive back from a wonderful honeymoon to the humdrum of homelife in Britain.  At the end of that last week, the family in Italy threw us a huge party and we've been welcomed back there several times since.  

It depends on your relationship with your inlaws, I guess, but I thoroughly enjoyed my experience, and it was a great way to meet all the Italian family since most couldn't come to the wedding itself.  If you can afford to take part of your honymoon elsewhere in the same country, I think it gives you the best of both worlds.

Answer 7

If you dont want to  go than thats gonna cause problemsGo somewhere you both agree on.Tell him why you dont want to go.

Answer 8

It's your honeymoon and you should definitely spend it alone with your new husband.  You can always visit his family another time.  If they get upset by this, then just let them be upset.  They'll get over it eventually.

Answer 9

Not a good idea, I think. Besides, it might be best to meet his family before you marry.

Answer 10

Well, it could be great but remember that family is going to be around you the entire time!  Try t o plan a little tour for about a week and then spend a week with the family.  My husband and I did this in Italy.  We took a 12 day tour of Italy and then spent 10 days with my aunt.  The family was great but we really were glad we took the tour first!