Is having your children close in age a good thing?

Question

I'm pretty sure I'm pregnant. Just waiting to take the test. My daughter is only 13 months. So this baby and her will be 22 months apart...less than 2 years. I'm excited but scared at the same time.

Did/do you enjoy having your kids close to the same age? Are they pretty close/attached to each other? Do they fight alot? Was it alot of work? ....just wanting to know what I should expect I guess.

Answer 1

yea so they can grow up together an experience things

Answer 2

just depends...  i fight with my sister all the time but i have a friend and they don't.... they get along and everything... it just depends on how it is in the house... i am born in july and i am older and my sis is born in may and we dont' get a long at all... we verbally fight all the time so it depends on how you teach your kids... i thought i should answer this because yea im there now... when i was younger i was told i got along well with her and stuff but not now... something happened

Answer 3

I found out on my sons first birthday I was pregnant with my 2nd child and she was a little over a yr when I found out we were having our 3rd. I love the fact my kids are so close in age because they have more in common. My mother was the baby of 3 kids and 7 yrs younger than her youngest older brother and she didn't like it because she said it never gave then the chance to be as close as she would like. I do think their teen yrs are going to be tough having the girls so close but I'm sure they will deal with it fine. Good luck!

Answer 4

Well I only have one child, but growing up I had a step brother who was twelve years apart from me, and older sister who was five years apart from me, and a younger brother two years apart from me. I can say that I fought more with my older sister then I did with my younger brother. The fights with my sister were perennial, but with my little brother they were short, and basically pointless. Expect some chaos(fighting over toys/ mommy and daddy's attention), but for the most part they'll have a close bond.

Answer 5

My younger sister and I are 27 months apart & my Mother has always said she wouldent do it any other way. My Mom dressed us the same & cut our hair the same but if they are opposite s*x. They may share schools, friends etc... and they will entertain each other especially well because they will probably have the same general intrests. my sister and i loved being close.

Answer 6

If you do turn out to be pregnant, congrats.

My daughter and then son are 21 months apart.  It has been the most perfect spacing ever!  I have encouraged their relationship from day one.  I wanted them to have a special bond.  I always have them do things for each other and praise each other.  I have taught them how to make up games that combine their very different interests (princesses and ponies vs trains and legos).  They do fight, but it isn't the defining characteristic of their relationship, they don't always fight and when they do, they can work it out without me being the referee.   A common phrase at our house when one kid comes crying to me is "it takes two to fight, so work it out".  Having them that close together was easier than three year spacing (my other child) because what to do at each of the stages of babyhood was still fresh in my mind and as they get older that benefit continues.  I had two in diapers for awhile, we joked about having assembly line diaper changes...not too bad really.  When the second baby needs the most time, the first is still young enough to be taking naps, that is wonderful.  My biggest tip is have a friend or family member there specifically to take care of the older one during the first week after baby is born, it helps the transition go so much more smoothly.    

Answer 7

My sister is only 10 months younger than me. And we've always been really close and we never fought. (or nothing serious really) We are 24 now, still very close. Some even think we are too attached to each other, but I don't think so, we just enjoy each other's company a lot. Always have.

I think being close in age is great although whether the kids will get along or not really depends more on their personality.

I know twins who can't stand each other :))

Answer 8

that is normal to be about two year apart... i know alot of kids who are... my kids are 14 months apart and i love it... they are really close to each other and love to look and play with each other.... They really are not old enough to fight because they are both under two so i am not sure on that question.. but all brothers and sister are going to fight no matter the age difference... it really isn't alot of work to me... unless you don't think you can handle two children under two... i love that they are close i got all my pregnancy over with because i just wanted two kids and now i just can't wait to watch them growing and my older one loves to help with the baby

Answer 9

I have a 7 month old and am 11 weeks pregnant.  My children will be 14 months apart.  I'm not too worried, my sister and I were close in age like that and we got along great.  Shared a lot of the same interests, had a lot of the same friends, and my mom said it was pretty easy because we could entertain each otehr and share toys.  OF course we fought a lot but what siblings don't.  It may be hard at first getting adjusted, but it will work.  

Answer 10

We have 2 kids that are 15 months apart.  Currently 5 and 6 years old.  We think it is great.  They are both girls.  They play well together and wear most of the same clothes.  Makes it easy to look after them.

Answer 11

At the time when I had my second child my first was 21 months. I was really worried how I would deal, thankfully it came very natural for me. My oldest doesn't really bother my youngest (yet) but I can tell my 1st loves his brother, he gives him kisses and trys to give him his binkie, I hope they'll be best buds when they're older! But anyways it's really not that bad! My sister and I are about a year apart and we are great friends have been for as long as I can remember! good luck!!  :)