Is he a perve? He checks out every girl, even my sis!?

Question

I really like my bf and he's really sweet to me when we're on the phone or together privately; however, when we're out in public or other girls are around- he keeps checkin out girls!!! What is wrong with him? Any guy would know this would hurt a girls feelings, I already told him about this..but it seems like he can't stop, he does it unintentionally. I even saw him checkin out my sis from head to toe, it really hurt me.

Please give me a detailed response to help me understand y he's like that...

Answer 1

say that he either needs to stop or else you will have to break up how old is your sis like if shes younger wth are you waiting for!!

Answer 2

He just seems like an ***.  Let him know about it.  If he keeps doing it he doesnt care.

Answer 3

Wow he is a winner let me know when he leaves you for another girl cuz I so want him! I bet we could have a great life of cheating and beating together!

Answer 4

He;s a man.  However, he should be a little more discrete and respectful of you.

Answer 5

He's a pervert and has no respect for you or any woman.  I would end it with him immediately and refuse to spend time with him.

Answer 6

Let me put it in simple terms. He's a horn dog. Sadly a very large percentage of young guys are. It's the hormones. They just got to have it. This isn't to say that he'd act on these impulses.  

Answer 7

he sounds like the average warm blooded male to me but he shouldn't be doing that around you, the fact that he's with you shows that he likes you and you would be lying if you said you never did it, i wouldn't worry but dump the lad straight away if he ever tried it on with another girl.

Answer 8

I don't know if he's "a perve," but he's definitely not respecting you.  Even if I see a cute guy, I might note it, but I'm not gonna stare him up and down, secretly undressing him. Guys can control it, even if they would have you believe they can't.  

Answer 9

could be something due to the fact that he does'nt respect you ?

or it could just be his age ( i dont know the age ) ?

he's probably not a perv, alot of guys do that, i know i know, really annoying, but . . . thats kinda life, atleast until you meet someone who respects your feelings enough to care whether your there when they start scouting.

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Answer 10

gurl i have the same problem! everytime he does i slap the c**p out of him. and then i start to call him out. like if hes looking at a gurl while we are in my car ill roll down the window and yell " HEY " to get her att. and he shuts up after.. hes stoped alot of the looks, bc of me embarassing him.

Answer 11

He could actually have a Hyper- Sexuality problem. Or, hes really not into you, and doesnt really care if you see him checking out other girls. Him looking @ your sister is real nerve!. Id think twice b4 going any further with this guy.

Answer 12

You're making a mistake by assuming every guy would know this.  I know you told him about it, but guys are not as curtious as women are.  I see my fiance checking women out occasionally, but I don't think he thinks I notice... he does it on the sly... which if fine.  They can look but they can't touch.  The problem to me is that he does it so bluntly when he's with you.  He may not care about you as much as you think he does, or as much as you care about him.  Remind him again that he's acting like a scumbag, and see what he does.  Good luck.

Answer 13

some guys have a real hard time controlling their eyes.   It's pretty common actually.  I dont know many guys that dont at least occasionally examine a notable lady specimin.  I bet you could convince him to curb it a bit though... try pointing it out everytime you catching him doing it, and apply some kind of negative affect that it has.  

Answer 14

I think he is wondering what they look like without any clothes on. I would have a long talk with him and if he won't stop doing that, I would tell him to have a nice life with someone else. Unless you stop him now, he will always do it and someday someone will catch him checking out someone who he should not checking out and then the trouble will start. If he is already checking out your sister, where does he stop. I don't think his feelings for you are very deep, maybe you should look for another boy friend who has some respect for you.

Answer 15

He is a DOG!  He is only into you when your alone.  He will find something new, he is shopping and you need to get rid of his rear now!  Quit s******g him and see how long he stays.

Answer 16

Every man is a perv but he has taken it from being a perv to being DISRESPECTFUL, baby it's ultimatum time something has to change you don't want to introduce I'm to the rest of your family and worry that his eyes is wondering...

Answer 17

simple answer - hes a man!

and they dont think with theyre heads they think with theyre trousers! talk to him about it again and if you still dont see a difference in his behaviour then tell him if he doesnt stop then its over! hopefuly he'l see that your serious but if he still doesnt care about your feelings then hes not worth it, get rid of him and find a guy who respects what you want and how you feel :)

Answer 18

i know guys like that who feel like they have to mate with every pretty woman they see. it's an obsession. very nice guys, however. it's just the way they've been wired up.

Answer 19

He's like that because he's a guy. They don't always know that their actions can hurt your feelings. Girls are especially sensitive, so the things that seem like a big deal to us, are nothing to a guy.

They like to check out girls. As long as he's not touching them, it's not a huge deal. My boyfriend and I will agree if a girl is attractive, sometimes I point them out to him! You have to be comfortable and confident with yourself, and have trust in him that it's harmless. But if it really bothers you, either lay down the law or get rid of him. No one is worth making you feel bad about yourself.

Answer 20

Imguessing hes about 20 or less. Guys will still glance at girls but its not as obvious when they mature more. Your just dating an immature guy...nothing to be alarmed about,especially if your sister is a hottie. If you think hes doing MORE than looking, then THATS when you need to worry about moving on.

Answer 21

I think it is natural for a man to be checking out girls. They dont give any thought to others feelings. Have another talk with him about it and if that doesnt work it might be time to move on. Good Luck! :]

Answer 22

ok, first off, any guy would not know it hurts u unless u say so.

secondly, when he does it turn his face to u, let him know what he is doing cause if he is doing subconciously, then he needs to be able to recognize when he is doing it n what is making him do it.

thirdly if he cant stop it n u cant get over it then maybe the relationship is not meant to be

Answer 23

Yes he is. From what you said he's only sweet to you privately, so he's not taking you seriously babe! He's checking other girls don' you ever feel jealous? He's not a keeper.

Answer 24

hay darl,

Im guessing that he is young????

well he will grow out of it, have you spoken to him about this?

i know that it would hurt you but its a guy thing but if he is checking out other people, you need to be able to speck to him and if he doesnt understand maybe he isnt the right one for you.

Answer 25

He's guy, we do that... Maybe he needs to work on his class so he can pretend like he's not interested in other women when he's around you.

"He's a pervert and has no respect for you or any woman. I would end it with him immediately and refuse to spend time with him."

Cough, cough... ball cutting... cough... man hating... cough... L*****n... cough!

Excuse me...

Answer 26

Straight answer: He's a jerk! He is checking out other girls, honestly, i'm so sorry but obviously he's not that serious with you. You don't have an honest relationship. Even your own sister! He is taking advantage of you. Dump that loser!

Answer 27

tell me this...when you see an attractive person go by, do you avert your eyes...or do you "check them out"?  just because humans look at each other does not neccessarily mean they have wicked intentions.  relax, and start looking,   you might see someone that you can trust, you obviously don't trust the one you're with.

Answer 28

He is 'the roving eye' type. I have seen this behavior even in men who are beyond their age say 65+.Its a habit that they cannot control.If you can laugh it off, then its okay. Such types are harmless otherwise.

Answer 29

he needs to show some respect for you!

tell him he's got one more chance and of he checks out another girl infront of you dump him!

you told him to stop but he carries on!

Answer 30

I'll be totally honest. Every guy will check out other girls even when he's with you, it's just that your bf sucks at doing it. So you need to talk to him about it and make him make it not so obvious. (harsh but true)

If you just say "stop checking out other women or I'll break up with you" he'll just start freakin out when you are in public and become nervous around you etc. So don't do that! Just tell him it hurts your feelings and would like it if he didn't and he should slow down with it.

Answer 31

maybe its to make you a tiny bit jealous an then you'll try extra hard to turn his attention to you - act like you don't care