Is he about to cheat on me?

Question

I know I shouldn't be paranoid, but I met my boyfriend through an online-dating site, and we've only been going out for about two weeks. We haven't seen each other in person for about one week, because he lives about two hours downstate from me.

For fun, I decided to look at his page on the site where we met. There was a comment from another member saying that he'd see my bf on Sunday (8-31-08). I got a little worried, but I know that people sometimes meet up just to hang out, so I decided to look at the guys page and saw a comment posted by my boyfriend saying that he 'can't wait to see his beautiful boyfriend on Sunday'.

I'm not going downstate to meet him. Though when I sent him a txt on his cell asking what was going on, he said that he was going to come up and see me, but now he isn't. He also told me that he'd be home on sunday when I asked if he could get on Yahoo IM because he's with family away from home for a few days.

When I was trying to be strait and was dating a girl, she cheated on me. Then when I tried an online thing with a guy, he lied to me about his whole life. Literally. Those are the only dating experiences I've had and I really don't want my third one to flunk either. I need an outside oppinion! What's going on?!

Answer 1

My guess is that he still considers himself 'single' and is dating whomever he wishes...  I am having a little bit of trouble seeing 'meeting someone online and becoming a couple in two weeks' as being a 'solid' relationship...  If you're too aggressive, too clingy or needy...those are SURE WAYS of getting rid of a potential boyfriend...  If I were you, I'd back off and let him contact you next time...if there is a next time...  I would also encourage you to 'expand' your 'life' by developing a multitude of personal interests, sports, hobbies, self improvement, etc...get out and meet LOTS of people (you don't have to plan to marry each and every one of them)...oh, and volunteer at your local LGBT Center, hospitals, hospices, libraries, nursing homes, etc...where you're bound to meet lots of responsible, caring, thoughtful and kind people...there are lots of fish in the sea...why settle for the first 'nibble'...

Answer 2

oh that's a tough one! I'm not really sure what the best move would be luv. I think u might just have to talk to him about it face to face so u can see in his eyes if he is lying or not?

Answer 3

how long have you known this guy? you said you have been his boyfriend for two weeks and haven't seen him for a week. if you have only known him for two weeks he's not your boyfriend. sorry  

Answer 4

I've has similar experiences. It seems a lot of people online continue to keep their ads active and continue to answer them. Even the ones that say they are looking for "LTR" or "monogamous dating". Get real quiet on him and see how long it takes him to pursue you again.