Is he always gonna think he's better than everyone else?

Question

It's so weird. Ever since my older brother got accepted into this college, he's developed this unbelievable ego. Suddenly, he’s too good for me. Suddenly, he loves his friends more, as if they were ever really there for him in the first place. Suddenly, he’s admittedly a, "new person," has all of life figured out, is better than everyone because he is going to college, and can psychologically evaluate me and assassinate my character by accusing me of being a person that I know for a fact that I am not. How long do you think this will last?

Answer 1

Probably until reality smacks him in the face. Maybe as soon as his first semester in college when he finds out his is no better than the rest of the people going there. And if he goes into college thinking he's all that there will be someone that will be more than happy to put him in his place. Because there is always someone who is smarter or better looking or more popular than him. A friend of mine owns a store and he used to sell a t-shirt that you would perfect to give to your brother or you could wear it yourself, he might get the message. It said "Teenagers of the world unite: Leave home while you still know everything." Unfortunately he's at that age where he thinks he knows it all until he finds out in fact he doesn't know as much as he thought.

But if he starts to get too annoying and since you are his sister you could just mention something really dumb he used to do when he was a kid especially if he is with his friends. Make sure it is not too embarrassing but something his friends will bug him about for some time afterwards. Good Luck and just ignore his attitude after all you are his sister and you know he really isn't all that.  

Answer 2

Certainly, as long as I consciousness remains intact.

Answer 3

Time will tell - it depends on his experience. A sharp knock will bring this to an end sooner rather than later, but might also have the effect of reducing his good mood. A more effective method is gentle mockery and ignoring him. Sarcasm works well - pointing out he hasn't actually *finished* college yet, or that the wisest man is the man who knows how ignorant he is, etc. Otherwise, just sit and wait it out. It's possible it will last for ever, but if this is not his usually charactor, that is actually an unlikely scenario (personality is persistant, most people return to their personal norm after a while).

Answer 4

Until the first day of classes. When he meets his professors, he will quickly learn that he hasn't got anything figured out. He is unproven, will be challenged, and will be expected to work. If his ego prevents him from coming to terms with that reality, he won't make it through the first semester.

Answer 5

Just wait until he actually attends said college. He will most likely be calling home a lot for help either financially or for anything else that a lazy young adult needs.

He may get into parties and slip academically, proving that even he can make mistakes.

Even if he doesn't do the whole party thing, the pressure of college is tough and I guarantee that he wont be so proud after receiving a few bad exam grades.

Besides, when he moves out, you can take his room!  =]

Answer 6

It will last until he's grown up enough to realise what's happening! Just humour him for now but be there for him when things come crashing down ...because they will! Life has a strange way of teaching people lessons. Maybe your lesson is to never let yourself get wrapped up in yourself like he is. Stay strong and assert yourself. He will mature.

Answer 7

Well did he JUST get accepted? Maybe he thinks he is this great thing because he is still getting used to the fact that he got into that college. Try to not let it bother you. Tell him....." look do u know how many OTHER people got into that SAME college" its not like he won a noble piece prize or anything. Although getting accepted into college is a great accomplishment its nothing to make others  ( esp. his lil sis) feel like c**p about. Just try to ignore it and not feed into b/c that will only boost his ego more if he knows he is getting to u. Stay positive :)  

Answer 8

It's common when people begin learning something new they believe they know everything.  I've done it myself.

  It will pass when he realizes how little he actually knows and how much there is to learn.

  Don't forget though that there may be underlying reasons for this sudden ego trip.  Has he ever had low self esteem or lacked praise?  Of course I don't know him but I'd say humour him with good nature, don't put him down - you are still well within your right to disagree with his 'diagnosis' or 'assassination'.  Failing that, start calling him doctor when he does it.  

Hope that helps,

Pax,

Ape.