Is he being abusive?

Question

my boyfriend acts wired sometimes, when i've tried to dump him before he says he won't leave, more then once he's stripped me naked and thrown me out, or he says that I have to leave and never come back, and it's MY apartment! sometimes he gets angry and gets in my face and starts grabbing me and shaking me, which i see as an assault and push/shove/hit him back, he chokes me, and once kicked me so hard in the back that i couldn't move the next day, but then when i make him bleed he makes me feel bad. he's hardly ever home And is hanging out with his ex-girlfriend, more then once i've woken up to see my wallet empty, he takes my credit cards like they're his and buys whatever he wants, and gets super pissed when i protest, which makes me a shamed for caring about money like that. he also has no problem yelling at me in public or in front of his family members, and once punched me in the stomach when i was pregnant, he missed and hit my ribs, but most times he's nice but hardly there, what's his problem? i'm pregnant and tired of his c**p, but am scared and is it really abuse if it only happens once in a blue moon?

Answer 1

OMG! Get out!!! hes being abusive! if it only one out of a blue moon. it can start getting worse. and he can get more abusive. trust me my dad was the same with my mom and he was abusive and did everythign to her. even in front of me n my bros n  sisters. so i say dump his *** get a restraining order. change ur key lock ur house. and have someone go with u everywhere cuz he can do something even worse. and especially since ur pregnant.

LEAVE NOW!

and GOOD LUCK! ur gonna be in my prayers.

Answer 2

leave himm. now. go to your family.just leavee and don't tell him.. and it is abuse.

Answer 3

this guy is abusive. now that you're pregnant you should get out now before he gets worse. You should never let a guy disrespect you especially in public. Don't be scared. Just let him loose and if worse gets to worse then maybe you should notify the police.

Answer 4

Yes it is still abuse and I think for you and the babies sake you should leave him It can only escalate from what he is already doing to you. It kind of sounds like he could be cheating to. I think you should leave him either forever or until he can learn to appreciate you!

Answer 5

abuse is abuse, physical verbal mental its all abuse. u must be dumb as fuc* i mean U are dumb as Fuc* for stayin wit a mufukah that treats u like that..  

Answer 6

Sweetie Please Leave Him It's the best thing to do for you and your child! Belive me I have been though it and I left when my son was two years old but i wish i would of left before I got pregnant! It will only get worst when the child is born he will be jealous and you don't want to think he would harm the baby but 80% of abusers do they hit the mother and go for the kids! Just think when you have to buy food for the baby and yourself what will he do? I was in it for seven years i suffer from a head bleed and headaches from my ex hitting me in the head and slamping it off walls! They never change you can't change someone who can't change themselfes! My son is five now but for the longest time i couldn't leave the room without him thinking i was hurt! My ex came after me one day and was on top of me hitting me while my eight month old was screaming mommy mommy and there was nothing i could do! Then my ex got mad at me and went after my son there i laid on top of my eight month while my ex beat me! To this day my son remembers that it's a long road to forget but it kills me to know what i put myself though and my son the most! I bet yourboyfriend didn't finish school and is in trouble with the law and he blames his family for not having money then blames you for his out breaks! IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT IT NEVER WAS DON'T LET HIM TAKE THE LIFE YOU KNOW DON'T LET HIM TAKE YOUR LAST BREATH AWAY BECAUSE ONCE YOU ARE DEAD THERE IS NO COMING BACK 95% OF WOMAN IN JAIL ARE THERE BECAUSE THEY KILLED THERE BOYFRIEND OR HUSBAND AS THERE ONLY WAY OUT! PLEASE GET HELP PLEASE I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILD!

Answer 7

100% abusive and violent and angry.  Please call you local Women's Center.  They also have a 24 hour holine.  After discussing it with the 24 hour hotline (you can just give your first name), make an appointment with one of the counselors at the Woment's Center the next day. They can educate you about abuse and how not to pick abusive men to have relationships with.

The hotline and counselor will tell you the safest way to leave this relationship.  Please do not bring a child into this relationship.  Abuse never gets better, it always escalates and gets worse.

Here's the information that the Mayo Clinic has on Domestic Violence.

I wish you and a your baby all the luck and hope you are soon safe.