Is he ever going to make a move?

Question

I have this problem with this guy who has been kind of showing me that he likes me and giving me attention. He helps me a lot, invites me to parties with his friends, comes to pick me up in his car, offers to help me without me even asking,... I have known him for a year now and he's been giving me this special attention for almost a month. I would be totally okay with dating him, but, hello, I am the girl here and I don't want to make the first move. I get that he might be trying to be a gentleman and that's very sweet of him, but if he doesn't make a move soon (yes, I mean kissing me or telling me that he likes me), I am gonna think he is not really interested in me and I might move on to something else. What do you think? I try my best to show him that I am comfortable with him, but.... Should I just forget it? We're not kids, we're both 20+, in College.

Answer 1

it sounds os if your impateint. just give him time, he is working at HIS pace, not yours. It maybe that you will not want anything to do with him in a long term relationship, because he may be this slow about all his decissions. So let him be himself.

Answer 2

I don't see why you have a problem making a move.  As you pointed out, you're not kids.  You shouldn't be restricted by the "You're the boy so you have to do it" mentality.  You know he likes you, and you would like to date him.  DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

If you're willing to abandon something that could turn out to be a great relationship, then maybe you don't deserve someone who is as much of a "gentleman" as you claim he is.

Answer 3

Why not make the first move .He's shy.Give him a chance.You can't loose ,he'd be flattered.

Answer 4

I think it's obvious that he is interested in you.  He might be too shy to do something about it though if you have been friends for so long.  He's probably worried about ruining the relationship you have now if he does make a move and you don't go for it.

I would make the first move yourself.  

Try watching a movie at home and get close and cuddly with him. See if he takes it any further and go from there.

If you want to be a little more bold, suggest giving each other back massages and make sure you both take your shirt off if you're the one getting the massage!  Skin on skin is much more intimate than an annoying t shirt.  If he still doesn't get kinky... suggest getting a frontal massage as a joke, but still roll over on your back like you are expecting it!  

If he doesn't go for it, your pride is still safe cause you said it in a joking way, and are just being cute.

Have fun!  Go get em tiger! ;)

Answer 5

He sounds mad shy. Just lead the conversation around to intimate topics.  Charlie, have you ever wished you could tell someone how you felt about them without being nervous? Ya know, don't you just wish it was a simple matter of telling someone how you feel, and letting them tell you their feelings?

Given the right time, or h**l, any time as long as you're alone, he'll start breathing a little heavier, trying to do it slowly, and oh you'll make him nervous as h**l. He might skirt around the question. Say, ya that'd be nice and hope that's the end of it. Doesn't really matter, now you've got your moment, the only thing he'll be thinking about is how he feels about you. So follow up, ya know what I mean Charlie? Give him plenty of opportunity to do it on his own, but since you're being ambiguous he might try and make it through without sharing his feelings. Get him to look you in the eye if he's avoiding you, and with the tension bursting, tell him Charlie, I want to know how you feel about me.

As long as he doesn't say "just friends," then you're set to start a relationship. You don't have to gush about him after, just tell him you're very comfortable with him and you'd like to find out what it would be like to kiss his lips or something cheesy to break the tension with the budding promise of a relationship.

As you said, you're not kids. Jump into a relationship and see what happens, that's all you can really do. Oh, and enjoy yourself!

Answer 6

make the move! he obviously likes you and is too shy to do anything .. just tell him how you feel and if your too uncomfortable to do that then just kiss him .. if he does like you then after that he will feel more comfortable id go for it if i were you