Is he flirting to keep me wanting him? Need some male advice

Question

Do a lot of guys flirt with a girl just to keep her interested, when they don't even like her? He's 23 & he has ADHD so he's naturally energetic & outgoing.

I once went on a few dates with him & after he asked me to be his girlfriend. He doesn't text me or anything anymore but everytime he sees me he compliments me "you look nice...I like your earrings...i like your bracelet..." Also he wants to kiss me (closes his eyes & puts his face forward like i'm just gonna go ahead & kiss him). Just recently he kisses me for the first time out of nowhere & later he told his best friend. He touches my hair, gets really close & once he smelt/kissed my neck. He holds hands sometimes when standing or sitting. He wants to make sure I don't get too close to other guys. I was talking to his friend once and he kept butting in or waving from across the room. He even came up to me & kissed me on the lips while I was there with his friend. Last time I saw him he gave me a neck massage.

Can a guy go this far, just for the sake of keeping me interested. He's made no plans to meet me again, he has also

talked about this girl he likes when i'm in the room. so why? Is he sort of taking the p*ss cos he knows I like him/

What's wierd is when we were seeing each other, nothing sexual happened, not even a kiss, and he was not so flirty. Once he made me dinner. He says things like 'remember when we used to play this song' or 'i haven't finished that bottle we had at mine when we had dinner.' We only talk on msn & meet through friends.

Answer 1

He wants to know you are still attracted to him, just because he can...

Move on, and tell him to keep his hands to himself.

(ps, I did that to a couple of my ex's... I regret being such an****)

Answer 2

just go and tell him how you feel! repressing them will not get you anywhere! give it to him straight, if he keeps avoiding you then do same and don't let him get close to you maybe this way he try harder to get some sugar, just tell him do you like us to be friends? why don't you txt me? you want me just for kisses?  

Answer 3

I am the father of four sons ( one ADHD) he is unfortunately extremely handsome a top athlete with whom we have spent a lot of money on him to allow him to get where he is now, I cannot count the amount of girls that have cried on my shoulder, No fault of his own but he has no feeling, so know what you are getting into, but you may do better than me.  

Answer 4

Hi dear, You need not take all the pressure on you. Give something to him too. Dont let him act soo smart. Tell him on his face what you feel for him. Ask him whether he is interested in a relationship with you. Once you get an answer its upto you to decide what to do. I guess he is trying to seduce you and drag you into a physical relationship...Dont give him a chance...cos once he gets what he wants..he would not even bother to talk to you.

Answer 5

Honey you can do better.  He is liking the chase and attention and only when he wants to.  He is playing games, go and find someone worthwhile for you, someone who will love you for you always, not when it seems to suit him.  I know I sound harsh, but guys with ADHD seem to have a problem with settling down and being true.

My sister inlaw is with one now, has been for 5 years, and the same behaviour is happening and she still thinks she can change him, he doesn't know what it like to settle down, and act his age, and this guy your interested in sounds the same.

Honestly you can do/and will do better.

Good Luck, you will need it with this one :-(

Minny :-)