Is he gonna hurt me?

Question

My partner and i are having a baby in feb. im so excited but at the same time worried he has been act very different latley i think he is finding it hard to deal with it in his own head. he is pretty stressed out and is staying up til like 4 in the morning every night he says he is just watching TV but i think he does stuf on the internet like chating to girls. i just dont want to get hurt. what do you think?

Answer 1

I agree - you are not a victim, and neither is he.  Get off your behind and learn how to communicate with the guy - NOW.  Here you are crying about how you don't want to get hurt - what about that innocent victim you two immature people are bringing in to this world - THAT is who you should be concerned with!!!  

Answer 2

Quite easy go onto the computer and have a look at what sites he is visiting go to the toolbar in your internet explorer page click on view / explorer bar / history - then click on what day you wish to look at and it will bring up a list of what sites your partner has visited on that day.

By the sites he has visited you gain an understanding into what he is up to. If you need help accessing history files on your computer just ask

Answer 3

find ways to involve him---its HIS pregnancy too!

Answer 4

just be real careful sweetie...make sure you can do for you and your child on your own just in case. don't let him stress you and your baby out over his childish games. hold your head up sweetie! you're worth more than what hes giving you!

Answer 5

I think you should stop playing the victim role and recognize that this is not how a pregnant woman, the mother of his child, should be treated.

Answer 6

First you need to find out the truth and then go from there.

Answer 7

Or maybe he's still stewing over what your father almost did to you and bub...You have to remember hun that this is going to be all new for him too and right now he might feeling a lil neglected... As someone else said get him involved with the pregnancy you want to know whats going on in his head, let him into your's.. Let him know that you're scared too, about the changes that baby is going to make in your lives... Hopefully this helps you a little...

Answer 8

you should just give him some space and he is probly just scard of whether he will be a good father to the babby....btw dont say any thing to him about (you think he is talking to girls on the net.) cause he may not be and start thinking that you dont trust him.

Answer 9

wow. you should monetor his history go on bookmarks or favs. it should be on the top left or somewhere in the middle then when you click on it you should see feeds and history click on history and you should know what to do from there

Hope this helped!  

Answer 10

I don't know if you've noticed, but you're getting a lot of attention right now, while your partner is being treated as basically just the sperm donor.

Don't borrow trouble by imagining that he's having an internet affair. Let him know that he's important, not just as the baby's father, but as the love of your life.  

Answer 11

I'm very sorry, but I think just asking the question supplies most of the answer.  He's your "partner," not your husband.  He could be in bed with his child's mother, but he's on the computer.  He's stressed now -- just wait for diapers and colic.  I hope you have a safe place for you and the child to land when it ends.  I also hope you're already thinking on how you're going to get child support out of this guy for the next 18 years.  

Answer 12

I think you should confront him about this and explain to him that with a baby coming that is not acceptable of him. Good luck and congrats!

Answer 13

I understand what you are going through....I went through something very similar with my husband.....what i did was i sat him down and pretty much forced him to face up to the fact the we were having a baby and if he wasnt going to be there for me then it was over. In the end we taked about why he was treating me the way he was and it ended up being him scared of s******g up and not being able to be there for me and our baby....among a few other things...the point is, is you need to make him talk to you and make him understand how you are feeling. But you also need to listen to him too. You cant do this alone...and you shouldnt have to either.....it takes two people to make a baby.

I hope this helps

Answer 14

the only way you are going to get the answer you wont is to ask him. sit down and have a chat you are both about to become parents it is a big responsibility and not always an easy one if it was unplanned some guys feel pressed to do the wright thing and don't now how to handle the situation. if he is talking to girls on the net then that's not to much of an issue as long as he is only talking and not hooking up its ok. it sux but its ok. you have to trust him or else you will cause all kind of problems. well congrats on the baby and good luck.

Answer 15

it would help to know how long u have been together? how long u have known him? confront him. tell him how u feel and what your thinking your the one whos having the baby and u should not have to worry about wether he is trustworthy or not. he should be supportive and share whateva is going on..... unless he has something to hide. so confront it head on. betta to no now whether he will be dependable for yur child. good luc