Is he having a Mid-life crisis?

Question

My bf turned 54 today. He's very youthful and looks 30 something. Still he freaked out. He decided to spend it alone. When I pressured for getting together over the weekend to celebrate he became angry. We texted and spoke on the phone through the day but he sounded increasingly upset. We've been dating for about a year and I've never seen him like this.

any advise?

Answer 1

Getting old isn't easy.  I'm sure he needs time to sort it out.  Give him some room and he will probably bounce back in a week and be back to his old self.  If he doesn't then start worrying about how to handle it.  If he continues to be reclusive and refuses to talk about it you may want to think about how to get him to open up.  Most likely he's just having a little pity party like we all throw for ourselves occasionally and he will get over it.  

Answer 2

This is something that you will have to pursue when he is feeling calmer.  There are undercurrents of feeling that need to be discussed because he must face up to them at some point.  You need to know if you are part of the problem.  You need to know if you can be part of the solution.  Don't allow him to brush it to one side.  If it happened once it will happen again and it needs to be faced or it will ruin your relationship.