Is he just being a good coach orr....?

Question

ok my volleyball coach is always winking and me and stuff and calling me about random stuff and he asked if i had a bf and stuff but he does this to some other girls 2 and i think he is just being a good coach who cares but idk...

Answer 1

hmmm....you better investigate on this one hun...he might just turn out a bad-er person than you thought

keep an eye out....best of luck on your season!

Answer 2

eww....well if you haven't called a lawyer yet, have a certain guy or guys come to games. Have them cheer for you and talk with you while you're one the bench. It's a mentality to get a coaching job to get close to kids and it's all too common.

Answer 3

I would just be careful.  It may really be nothing, but I would still be careful.  He may just be thinking of you as a leader of the team.  Or he could be looking for a new girlfriend.  

If your coach was a woman, would you still be uncomfortable?

Answer 4

It's one thing if your coach calls you to say that practice has been canceled or moved, but asking about your personal life and winking is inappropriate. That's not being a good coach.

I don't care how old he is or how innocent it might seem. As a coach, he's an adult in a leadership position, and therefore the behavior your described is unacceptable. If it continues or gets worse, I would tell your parents or another adult at the school so that it doesn't lead to anything more serious.

I hope, for your sake, that it doesn't go further than a wink. Try frowning at him the next time he winks at you, and see if that gets him to stop.

Answer 5

Winking isn't necessarily cause for alarm as it can have a lot of different meanings.

Calling though... it depends what he's calling about. It's not that unusual to have a friendly relationship with a coach, but...I've never heard of a situation where the coach just calls to chat... it's... well odd to put it succinctly.

Asking about boyfriends crosses a line. Especially since this is a male coach. If there is something going on in your personal life (like if you're dating someone or if you're fighting with a friend... stuff like that) you could talk about it with the coach, but it has to be voluntary. Asking about your day... caring. Asking if you are dating... that's not really something the coach needs to know about. So he shouldn't be asking.

Honestly the fact that he does this to other girls in the club too isn't really much of an excuse. It seems a bit... odd. Non-professional. Honestly its a little bit worrying. Obviously you feel the same way or you wouldn't be asking. I'd discuss this with, well parents, a counselor, someone who is older that you trust. And if he does anything, ANYTHING, that makes you suspicious, tell someone. Immediately.

Since I don't know this coach I can't really say anything definite. He could just be really (overly!) friendly, or well... he could have other motives. Either way I'd still mention this to an adult.

Good luck :)

Answer 6

i would be careful....those things have nothing to do w/ making u a better vball player! keep ur eye out, and maybe tell ur parents or the school...and even if he duz it 2 other girls, maybe hes just targeting a lot.