Is he lying or she lying?

Question

My long-term live in boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me between dec-march with the same "sandie" he stopped said he was done with her no communications. He's been cheating in the past but says he's changed even "swears" on his fathers grave. Now the same "sandie" called and i happened to answer and she says they have still been talking0 and has described cars, clothing etc times, and they match. even discussed some of our "relationship problems" . He says she's lying about everything she's just crazy. who is telling the truth? will he change/should i forgive him??

Answer 1

She is telling the truth.  I found out my partner of 1.5 yrs was married wih kids.  At the time waiting to know if i was pregnant. I told her this.  Partly because I was genuinely unsure... late due to stress of everything and partly because I wanted her to know.  I put her straight as soon as I knew for sure.  But that does not make me a liar.  Maybe like Sandy?  He left home when I found out about his wife, took me to his family an religous leader to get blessing for divorce and marriage with me.  Months later she contacted me, she told me that all along he had been trying to work things out with her and she supposed he told me x,y and z.  I couldnt belive his cheek and told her everything of the past few months.  He told her I was lying etc .... it wasnt like that... i just trying to come between them etc.  I could also give details because it was TRUE. Then he called me and told me SHE was lying.  She just wanted to split US up!  I think, you should get her to meet you and call your partner.  You will hear for yourself.  100% what deep down you already know but dont want to face so will let him brush under the carpet and accept the other woman crazy.  If you love someone, you do this.  Just please do it with open eyes x good luck.  I am sorry you are going through this. He will play you both off against each other forever if u let him.  Be smart and meet and talk with her if you honestly want to deal with the truth.

Answer 2

How would she know all of these details without him telling her. You will continue to be cheated on by him.

Answer 3

She is telling the truth most  likely

Answer 4

HE IS LYING hes the only one with anything to lose. He is lying to keep you. you know deep down inside that shes not lying to you. How about you try this.  call her on your cell phone with out him knowing. tell her to listen in. then have question him again. im sure he will say shes a liar, i dont like that b***h, shes just trying to get between us. this way she knows what hes saying about her. so she can leave his ***.  

Then you do the same.. shes not your enemy weather you believe me or not. shes just another girl that was lied to. ask her to do the same for you. tell her to party line you when hes not home and call him to talk about "their relationship" this way you know the total truth.

Hes definatly not worth it but it can prove to you that he will never change. im sure hes going to say something like, Im not with her, shes just saying that so you can leave me..(to her)..  

Answer 5

I think she's probably telling the truth.  Your boyfriend has a motive to lie.  What is her motive?  Unless she's just trying to break you guys up, that could be.  But if she was able to describe clothing and stuff, that looks like she's probably telling the truth.  Sorry but your boyfriend sounds like slime.

Answer 6

If she is giving you specific times that match up...than it seems to me that he is still lying to you. How else would she know those times, or discuss details about YOUR relationship? The way I have always seen it is....once a cheater, always a cheater. I know that some people change, but majority of the people who cheat, don't change. If you feel your relationship can be repaired, then you can forgive him. But think about this: Knowing what he has done, can you honestly forgive him? Can you honestly say that later on down the road, you won't still be thinking about that? Will you always wonder if he is cheating on you? I would seriously weigh the options here before you make a decision.

Whichever way you decide, I wish you all the best.

Answer 7

He's lying. Let Sandie have him, they're custom made for each other.  

Answer 8

He's lying. He's done it before, he won't think twice about doing it again.  

Answer 9

Sandie is telling the truth..he is lying. How would she know about "cars, clothing, times, etc" if she had not seen it? He has a track record of lying....he's the liar!

Answer 10

You got the truth from Sandie.  Dump him and let her have him.

They deserve each other, you deserve better.  Good luck.

Answer 11

Just drop off the key Lee, and get yourself free. Free I say!

Answer 12

hello you said that everything she said match! hello he is lying! sweetie dump his sorry ***! good luck