Is he my best friend or my crush...or maybe both. I am so confused?

Question

He and I are the best of friends. After I was betrayed by my pack (they are animals) of friends, he was there. He was a good guy, and I never thought about him in that way.

We have been best friends for about a year and a half, and we tell each other everything. We talk everyday at least an hour over the phone and he texts me morning everyday and text him night before we go to bed (with many texts in between)

I am just not sure if I love him, or if I am in love with him.

He is currently going out with this really nice girl but there relationship just seems to be hanging, not moving forward. I could never hurt this girl and steal him, but then again I am not sure if I even love him in that way.

It just feels like I am in a relationship without being in a relationship.

I want to kiss him so badly, but my "best friend me" recoils at the thought. he is practically my brother.

I am so confused, could someone shed some light?

Answer 1

you like him, he would cry on your shoulder and thats  a good thing for a gf.

Answer 2

same thing happened to me. my current girlfriend and i met my freshman year. she had a crush on me but i didn't like her like that. we were best friends she didn't even have to tell me what she was thinking it was like i read her mind. after almost two and a half years of knowing her i realized that all my other girlfriends had just been lust. i told her that i realized why i had said i didn't like her was because i didn't like her i loved her. and i still love her. know when i hold her hand its like i can actually read her mind. what it took for me to really think about dating her was seeing her face when i walked into the lunch room holding my new (at the time) girlfriends hand. the pain that spilled across her face made me realize she meant more to me than the girl i was holding. she had told me before that she liked me but i assumed she had gotten over it because she would tell me about guys she liked. my girlfriend isn't drop dead gorgeous but shes beautiful to me all it took was a step back to look at my life as a whole and realize that i was feeling a whole new feeling. i hope that helps some

Answer 3

keep him as your good friend, who say he wants more than that, you are just attracted to him you will soon get pass that find a man

Answer 4

i wish i new how you felt but if you don't know how you like him yet still just keep on hanging out as friends like you've been all along and trust me long lasting relationships always start that so just give it some thought ok hon

Answer 5

start off simple. Hold his hand walk with him ask him to movies. simple things like that are a great way to build a relationship. It sounds like you guys are really close. Simple little things like that are the first steps towards a sucessful relationship. Start by holding his hand... You'll know immediatly by his reaction if he wants you to be his BF...

Answer 6

You're not sure if you love him or not, but you want to kiss him badly. So there's some contradictory feelings - you want to kiss him but the thought is kind of repulsive, because you still think of him as a friend.

It's going to be hard continuing as friends if you keep having these urges to kiss him that you have to push aside. If he were available, you'd have a chance to tell him how you feel and then try out kissing to see if it's what you want.

But right now he's dating someone, and you probably don't want to interrupt by telling him how you feel. (I don't think it would be wrong to tell him you like him and see how it goes, if you wanted to.)

So you have to figure out how well you can deal with the status quo. Can you keep ignoring your feelings, or would it be better to put a little distance between the two of you?