Is he to old to hold hands?

Question

i asked a question previously about my son and some people seemed to think he was too old pertaining to the question, he is ten, is he too old to hold hands still?

Answer 1

Yes. His friend will make fun of him if you do dat. Yooh don't want that now right?

lol.

Don't embarrass him.

Answer 2

I don't think so, but it's really up to him. He may get embarrassed, especially if his friends are around. But if you are crossing a busy street or are in a huge crowd of people, then I say the possibility of embarrassment should take a backseat to safety and I would hold his hand.

Answer 3

Son: 10

Daughter: 9

Daughter: 16 months

Daughter: in utero :)

My older two don't mind holding my hand; when I let go, it's in a non-crowded area, and they walk either right beside me, or slightly in front of me... NEVER behind me!

They're homeschooled, so they don't have the conflictions of 'Will I be teased?' They really don't care, and have more important concerns. :)

Answer 4

It might embarrass him. My son is 10 also. When we are in the mall or an overly crowded place, I make him walk beside me or slightly in front. I sometimes put my hand on his shoulder, but I don't hold his hand.

Answer 5

He's to old for you to make him hold hands when you cross the street and stuff like that.

If he wants to, let him.  Don't force him too.

You have to allow your child's independence develop. If you're always holding his hand, (or being over protective in other ways) he will not learn how to deal with stuff on his own.

Answer 6

Not if he wants to hold hands.  Ten is a pretty independent age, so if he decides that he wants to do this, okay.  If you want him to but he doesn't want to, that is okay, too.  Just make him walk beside you or in front of you so you can see him at all times.  At ten, a child doesn't yet know the dangers of this world.

Answer 7

Depends on the situation really.  If it's kind of like a hug or embrace, then fine.  Crossing the parking lot and shopping, not so fine.  If it bothers him don't do it.  If not, hold on!

Answer 8

No, if he wants to then let him - my 11 year old daughter holds my hand - at this age it's not a baby safety thing - it's an affectionate thing.

I read your other question - He probably holds it in the interlocking way because that's what he sees his Dad do - you could just tell him he can hold your hand the same way he holds his Dad's hand.

Answer 9

My daughter is 13 and I will still grab for her hand at times, like going through large crowds or even crossing a busy street.

Until she says, "Mom, I am too old to hold your hand." or until she refuses to accept it, I will continue to hold her hand. I would never force her to hold my hand. My belief is if it doesn't bother her, it doesn't bother me.

Answer 10

Of cause he is not. Teach him that he is right in holding hands and others are wrong if they disagree. This is silly.

Answer 11

Borderline.  Judgement call.

Answer 12

I don't think hes too old to hold hands. If you're meaning in relationships, I've seen old people hold hands with their husband/wife. If you're meaning holding hands with their parents, I've held hands with my parents untill I was about 15.