Is he worth it keeping as a friend?

Question

I had dinner with one of my guy friends who I have not seen for 2 1/2 months. He called me to hang out, but I felt that he was not happy to see me at all because he never said so when we met. Maybe I am reading too much into this but I feel that something is different with him and he would not tell me. He was very sarcastic with me. I picked up the dinner check and he told me that I was showing off when I paid for dinner, when I just wanted to treat him nice as a welcome home gift. We graduated from school together and he told me that he was happy that he met me. He has a birthday this week and I want to wish him happy birthday but I am not sure whether that is a good idea because I did not feel like he was happy to see me. I like him but I do not think that he does. I just do not know why he even called me. Should I call him to wish him happy birthday or just let it go?

What do you think?

Answer 1

I think you should just call and wish him happy birthday, if not a simple text will work.

Is he usually a sarcastic person? Maybe it's just his personality and he appears to be cold but actually cares. I've known many people who use sarcasm as their default personality - it works well for the first few moments but after awhile it does get rather annoying.

Plus, he was the one who called YOU to hang out, so I imagine that he does care a little bit. Still, if he acted really strangely/coldly to you maybe he's going through a tough time in his life.  

Answer 2

No.

But if you really like him as a Friend I say you sould go! =D

Answer 3

Well he might have just been in a bad mood or sumin and it wasnt your fault. But you should still call him to wish him happy birthday-if he sounds a bit off with you on the phone then maybe leave him to himself for a while until he calls you again x

Answer 4

I think he is struggling emotionally and perhaps financially.  That's why he resented you paying for dinner.  He wanted to see you and talk to you because he is feeling lost and searching for his next step in life. He's having a hard time feeling good for anyone else or even being gracious to other people.  The fact that he intiated contact and wanted to see you means that he does still want to be friends, but he is so unhappy with himself that it's affecting all his friendships and relationships.

Be gracious and giving and wish him a happy birthday.  Let him know that you will continue to be there for him.  Let him know that he can count on you to listen and to be his friend.  Don't let his misery affect how you treat him.  How you treat him is a matter of your character and your choice.  If you show him kindness and patience, he may just learn to do the same for you or someone else.

Answer 5

Maybe he was just shy & didn't know how to express his feelings, &that'ss how the straight guys are, they just want to act all manly & stuff.