Most people in interracial relationships fall in the category of seeing themselves as ‘beyond race’. Such people claim not ‘see’ color when they look at people. And remarks that follow - “I don’t even think of you as [White, Black, Mixed, Asian or whatever]
But if you look at it deeply, when someone tells you they don’t see you as being say mixed race, much as it is beautiful, it kinda overlooks a huge facet of what makes you ‘YOU’. You may even begin behaving in a certain manner so that the other person suddenly doesn’t get a glimpse of color in you.
Some people however, much as they say they see ‘beyond race’, they don’t really act it. They may keep making remarks about how lighter women are more beautiful and stuff. Kinda makes one think that their ‘seeing beyond color’ is like a way of being kind enough to overlook some handicap you have or something.
One lady is married to a man who doesn’t see himself as a ‘beyond race’ kind of guy, but as being an anti-racist who finds Black women beautiful and desirable. He doesn’t look past her skin but right at it, and says that it’s gorgeous! Some might mistake his preference for fetish. But she is happy to be with someone who likes her for who she is and doesn’t run away from that fact by branding it ‘beyond race’. She says, “I don’t have to wonder if he’d rather have my personality and interests repackaged in a white girl’s body."
Well, I think I like this ‘anti-racist’ term better. What’s your take on this?
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