I really don't need to ask this question to know that my friend is in an abusive relationship with her husband. She's come to work with black eyes (of course, she got them cause she fell while "drunk"), and has even complained that he's sprayed her with his Mace (he's a police officer). She's cried a lot to me about him, and has even admitted they haven't been intimate in almost 8 years.
I've seen the way he treats her in public, so I can't imagine how he is in private. And whenever he talks down to her, I end up sticking up for her, because she's too afraid to say anything. I've told her to leave him, but for some reason, she's sticking around. They don't have any kids, so I don't know what the problem is.
My question is this: is isolation another aspect to domestic violence? She's really upsetting me, because I haven't seen her in almost three months (which is actually typical of our relationship.) We just made plans to get together tomorrow, because I'm going through something and really need to talk to her. Next thing I know, she leaves me a voice message saying he really just wants to hang low at the house with her tomorrow, so I can't come over.
In truth, I'm not the only one of her friends who has taken a back seat to her husband (who, by the way, has no problem going out with HIS friends and leaving her at home.) She's literally become his possession, and it sickens me. I'm so mad, and I don't know what I should say or do, if anything at all. Any advice?
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