Is it OK for a baby to be brought up in a creche?

Question

My boss has a wife who is as ambitious as he is. They both have big jobs (mines not bad too ;-) ) and fly long-haul business frequently with their jobs. His wife had a baby about a year ago and the poor thing has been at the local creche every day since it was 2 months old. How would a baby in those circumstances grow up? Would the baby be independent and confident in later life or feel rejected and resentful?

Answer 1

well im sure that baby has all the material things he would want, but what he has never had, he wont miss ie, mummys prescence. personally i find it quite sad, and i am so completely blessed to be able to stay at home with our baby. but people have to work.

Answer 2

yeah why not you need to go out and work to be able to make money for your baby it has no choice neither do you.. i had a baby minder for years when i was small she was a stranger i would have loved to go to a creche to see other children my age.

Answer 3

it depends where you are of course, but i think day cares can be problematic at such a young age. If your job pays enough you could hire a nanny to come to your home to help out. that way the baby still is at home and is getting one on one attention. As they get older day cares can be nice because they will have other children to play with.

everything i have read and heard has led me to think that seperation too early does not breed confidence, but rather insecurity. At this stage babies need comfort and stability. I dont think they will remember well enough to resent you so i wouldnt worry about that.

Answer 4

Many people do it.  Not me though. I have been a stay at home mom for 10 years, I would never let someone else raise my children.

Answer 5

My career was always something i wanted to continue.. i had a baby and couldn't bear to put her in a creche, so we compromised and i work flat out 3 days (30 hours) and have the rest of the time with my daughter. my husband takes those 3 afternoons off to pick her up at lunchtime from nursery.

i understand that many people feel they need to have full time nursery,, but i can't understand how they could leave their child in the care of someone else for such long periods of time. Saying all that,, i don't know that it would affect the baby at all,, it's more of a guilt trip for the mother.  

Answer 6

creche`?  I thought you meant like Christ in a manger!  ...  Sorry, American, here.