Is it a bad idea to come on to my wife as someone else in IM, try to set up a date, and then show up as me?

Question

do you think she'd find it erotic that it was me all along, or just be like...aww c**p it's you.

Answer 1

LOL...

I am thinking of that Rupert Holmes song...

Sure - meet up and drink some Pina Coladas :)

Answer 2

Heck no it's not a bad idea.  Sounds like fun.  In fact, you need to really trash talk your wife in IM before you set up the meeting.  Tell her how porky your wife is, and that you find her so repulsive, so hideously disgusting, that she makes your willy shrivel into a pathetic little raisin.

Answer 3

uhh i think you should be more worried that your wife would potentially meet up with a stranger online and cheat.

unless thats what you want to find out. if she would cheat on you, then try it. i doubt she would find this erotic.  

Answer 4

The biggest problem will be convincing

her that it was you that said those things.

Answer 5

I think it could be totally romantic as long as you played it off that way.  If you did the "neiner neiner you just got busted" it could blow up in your face.  

Answer 6

Yeah....I think she might be disappointed when she sees its you and it would just hurt your self esteem.  Why would you want to do that to yourself?

Answer 7

she may get angry,  lets hope she has a sense of humor, just remember a date doesnt mean anything, depending on the conversation that leads to a date.

if she accepts, show up and ask if she is happy, make her feel guilty.

Answer 8

Are you trying to set her up as a cheater?  If you want to spice things up, role play and pretend to "meet" online and hook up for a "one-night stand".

Answer 9

I guess if you have a really open marriage it  may work out. I can't imagine it working out that way, though. Weird imo!

Answer 10

wouldn't this turn out the wrong way and wouldn't you be upset that your wife randomly hooked up with a guy she doesn't know even though you know its her but she doesn't know its you?  

Or are you wanting to test her?  She might think you are.  I do not think is a good idea.  She probably would think she got set up.

Answer 11

Okay what is it you don't trust her and want proof?   What are you going to do with the proof, move on, hold it against her, punish her till h*** freezes over?  If you want to set her up you need a trusted friend, you can feed him the info, help set up the sting, but you want to not appear to have anything to do with this thing.  Then wait and see if she bites and how fare she goes, thats why it has to be a friend you trust your wife with.  But he has to come across as someone else then a person then knows you, to draw her in.  You know some of her pet interests, and what she gets excited about, inside stuff, that is why you really have to trust the guy, get it?

Answer 12

Unless you guys cheat on each other all the time, I don't think she will do either. It will probably turn in to a trust issue between both of you.

Answer 13

Sounds like a bad idea. You need to trust her or you'll have bigger problems down the road.

Answer 14

Or you could just have some "Afternoon Delight" with Muskrat Susie.

Answer 15

I was tired of my lady, we'd been together too long.

Like a worn-out recording, of a favorite song.

So while she lay there sleeping, I read the paper in bed.

And in the personals column, there was this letter I read:

"If you like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain.

If you're not into yoga, if you have half-a-brain.

If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape.

I'm the lady you've looked for, write to me, and escape."

I didn't think about my lady, I know that sounds kind of mean.

But me and my old lady, had fallen into the same old dull routine.

So I wrote to the paper, took out a personal ad.

And though I'm nobody's poet, I thought it wasn't half-bad.

"Yes, I like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain.

I'm not much into health food, I am into champagne.

I've got to meet you by tomorrow noon, and cut through all this red tape.

At a bar called O'Malley's, where we'll plan our escape."

So I waited with high hopes, then she walked in the place.

I knew her smile in an instant, I knew the curve of her face.

It was my own lovely lady, and she said, "Oh, it's you."

And we laughed for a moment, and I said, "I never knew"..

"That you liked Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain.

And the feel of the ocean, and the taste of champagne.

If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape.

You're the love that I've looked for, come with me, and escape."

"If you like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain.

If you're not into yoga, if you have half-a-brain.

If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape.

You're the love that I've looked for, come with me, and escape."

Answer 16

If your wife would even accept the advances and date from some IM person...then your marriage has much bigger problems.

If someone did that to me, I would tell them to back-off because I am married.  Then, I would tell my husband about it.  If you guys have a good marriage, then your wife will do the same.

Answer 17

Are you also going to ask her if she likes pina colada's and getting caught in the rain?

Answer 18

i think its a good idea and it would be hilarious

Answer 19

not sure what your reasons are in doing it.. if you dont trust her or just want to see if she iwll take the bait, then if she does it could cause some serious damage..  when i susspected my ex of cheating, i had no concrete proof, but just somethings were off a bit. i made up a fake myspace account and googled a image of a girl.. made it look just right.. added some people i didnt know.. in the bio part i made up some c**p that i knew he would enjoy or being temtped by.. (hahah im soo bad)  so the time came were he was at work and supposed to be saving peoples lives right (he's a doctor by the way )  he sat on myspace IM and talked to me for nearly 2 hours off and on. made a date witrh me that night to come watch porns and get firsky.  told me he had plans with his buddy that night , but will cancel with him to come visist me.. all this time he had np clue it was me at all..  see we lived together at the time and had a child together. so in all of this he gave her his pager number, b.c he said his house phone was getting serviced.. (go figure)  came home and told me he was going out with his buddy, but i knew what he had inmind, b.c i was the one he was chatting it up with.. i was steamming inside, but i knew at that point my suspicions were dead on.. so  then as he went into the shower, i logged on to the fake account and messaged him that i woudlnt be able to make the date that night and to reschedule.. so then i hurried off the comp and he got on it after his shower to check mail.. picture this now.. im sitting on the couch watching from the back of his head as he was reading the e-mail i just sent him.. he looked mad and i asked him whats wrong (soo innocently) he said his buddy coudlnt go out.. he made such a fuss about it, but i knew deep down inside he was just mad that he had canceled his true plans with his friend to go out with a fake girl he just met and now he had to sit at home with me.. ohh lord.. we had been fighting for sometimes and holding on to a relationship that wasnt really there.. it was just a mess.. long sotry short he had got some beers and sat at home. acouple hours later  i decidded to come clean with what i did and told  him my reasons why.. i asked him to sit down next to me at the comp and logged in as "ally" on myspace .. it was priceless.. but then it turned for the worst.. he called me a pycho for it and acouple more things that i cant use on here.  i didnt really care about the name calling, i just new that whatever way i chose to find out if my suspicions were right, i needed to do and this was the way i did it..  i knew confronting him about  if he was cheating wouldnt of worked b.c he would have lied, so i left him and now i have someone who treats me great and i have no reason to beleive any cheating is going on..  so as i type this, it might turn out bad or  depending on your wife and how she reacts  to things, it might go over fine.. in my opinion i dont think you would be thrilled if she was planning to meet someone outside the marriage..

Answer 20

YEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

Answer 21

well are you trying to see if she is cheating on you ? your question is a little vague...confused. so lets see if you wanted to do that maybe she would get offended because she would think you were trying to test her. how would you feel? up too late she just im'd me.  

Answer 22

Why are you doing this in the first place?  do you think she would cheat?  Do you like the idea that she would?  I would be upset if I posed as someone else on IM and my boyfriend took me up on it not knowing it was me.  I would think he is a cheater.

If you get into that sort of thing........go for it.  

Answer 23

Yea she'll be disappointed....

Then she won't have s*x with you for another year... but hey your used to it right?

LOL

Answer 24

"aw c**p, its you"......

Answer 25

Wouldnt you worry that you werent the only "date" she showed up for? If she makes a habit of this, she's gonna be like "c**p, I just got caught". that's not a good thing, man

Answer 26

If you did that she's probably be pissed. Not only that you would now know that she is looking and willing to cheat on you. This is a stupid idea and I recommend not doing it. If you want to do something like this just do some roll playing

Good Times

Answer 27

I think its opening a can of worms that can or will go wrong in a number of ways.

Is the issue trust?