Is it a good thing to have a non-traditional wedding?

Question

I'm a very shy person, and I dont think i want the whole thing of having the bride and groom siitng at a "head" table, while all the guest stare at me, while the MC does his tricks and all. If I dont wanna do that, what else can I do to have a good wedding but not a boring one?

Answer 1

Do what you want ... it's your day.  I am a bit shy, too.  The only reason I had a head table was because the room is raised at one end.  What I ended up doing was having two small tables - one for the bridal party (bride, groom, maid of honor & best man - there were no other bridesmaids, groomsmen, etc.) and another table right beside us for the parents of the bride & groom.  That way everyone wasn't focusing on us all the time.

Also, we didn't have a typical reception.  This is how it went:

* welcome of the bridal party (MOH, Best Man), then bride & groom.

* grace (blessing of the meal) including blessing of the cake

* cutting of the cake (because the cake was being used for dessert so we cut it early)

* meal

* during the meal we had an open mic session - no toasts planned, but guests could speak if they wanted to.  About 6 people spoke and that was fine.  

* first (and only) dance - it was a morning wedding, so no dancing. We only danced because my husband loves to dance and we had a special song.

* our reply.

That was it.  It was beautiful.

Answer 2

You should have a wedding that is most comfortable for you (for me, that was eloping). Music, good food and wine will make everyone happy!

Answer 3

Traditions are a matter of personal preference. Some people want to do them and that's great, there's nothing wrong with it. Traditions are something that are important to a lot of people.

For my fiance and I, non-traditional is great simply because it suites our style. I've always marched to the beat of my own drum and my family's always embraced that. My fiance told me he feels that a lot of the traditions at a wedding are silly so we're on the same page.

We aren't having a head table either. We both thought it would be better just to sit with the guests and such. We're also not doing the garter or bouquet toss. I think the only traditions we're keeping at the reception is the first dance, then my fiance will dance with his mom (my father isn't around), and then the cake cutting. Everything else has been thrown out the window.

As for not making it boring, I would say make sure you have good music that will make people want to get up and dance. I'm trying to think of what else would get people up and mingling. If anything comes to mind, I'll definitely come back and add on to this answer.

Answer 4

yea I know what you mean I have been to so many weddings big and small but they all do the same head table thing...

how you want to arrange the tables dependes on how many people you are inviting...if is a small group you can have a just one big long ( or round) table with you and him sitting in the middle...and have your family and friends around you.. and you can have the other tables very close kinda next to yours but not right in front..

i dont its just an idea...good luck

Answer 5

Thats perfectly fine.We might do that.I want to sit with our parents not just us 2 at a table.Your wedding will not be boring.Congrats.

Answer 6

Well for my wedding me and my husband had no husband and wife table. We decided to go around every table and thank our guest for attending the wedding. We eat at my parents table, and for the cake we sat down and eat it at a friends table. We did had a table for the gifts and another for the cake but just for us no. I wanted to feel like part of the party not the party.

Answer 7

Hi,

this is Sophie and I am a wedding planner.

I love non traditional weddings they are a whole lot personal and you can be relaxed. The secret to plan it small. Less than 50 people is ideal.

Here are 8 reasons why you should to plan a non traditional small wedding.

Planning Small Wedding #1: GUESTS

You get to celebrate one of the biggest days of your life surrounded by people who love you, know you and won't expect you to do things it makes you uncomfortable, like sitting at the head table.

Planning Small Wedding #2: PERSONALIZE

You can feel more relaxed on your wedding day and you get to spend time with your guests.Make your guests feel at home.

Planning Small Wedding #3: SAVE

You can save money.

Planning Small Wedding #4: AFFORD

You can splurge.

Planning Small Wedding #5: OPPORTUNITY

You have more options when choosing a venue.

Planning Small Wedding #6: FUN

Have more freedom to customize your wedding to your own tastes.

Planning Small Wedding #7: HELP

You can get your guests involved. With that move you will feel more like the part of the wedding not the BOSS.

Planning Small Wedding #8: MEMORY

You can have a wedding that people will remember.

Congratulations, and Good Luck!

Sopie