Is it a proper behaviour from my mother and sis. in law ?

Question

They have told my 13 yrs old son whose birthday is today, that they can't come over cuz they are just not in the mood, so they told him to come over their place, next to ours, to give him his present ( some money, to buy what ever he likes)

Answer 1

That is extremely rude and inconsiderate of your young son. They are adults and if I were you, I would not take my son over to see them.  Sounds to me like some extreme laziness...

Good luck!

Answer 2

That's not very nice at all. Forget them and their money. You can get your son whatever he wants.

Answer 3

In the mood or not that's a bunch of bull, it's his birthday, they should come to him!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

There is no reason why a teenager can't stop next door and pick up money from the Grandmother and Aunt for his birthday.  

Maybe they don't feel good, maybe they health issues they just dont' want to get into today.

Give them a break its not like you have to put the kid in the car and drive them to another city, then you can be miffed.

Answer 5

Wat?! come on.,. wats the matter with them (sorry for the words:P) can't they just come over for a while just to show that they even care? it's not a proper behaivor because it's a bad example.,.

Answer 6

Sounds kinda like they are a bit slack in their duties... but your son is 13 and will probably enjoy not having to hang around with family anyway. It is annoying but I honestly don't know what you could do about it.

Answer 7

that is so mean ..... i mean yeah kids that age love the money but not to come over for at least an hour to spend time with the kid is heartbreaking def. not proper for them to do that

Answer 8

I don't think that's proper behaviour at all. They should be setting an example for him and the fact that it's his birthday they should be doing the right thing and getting off their a**es to go and say Happy Birthday to him and give him a present.

They obviously couldn't motivate themselves to buy him anything either so they pulled money out because that's all they had on them.

That is utter laziness in my opinion and extremely slack of them!

Answer 9

as long as theyre acknowledging its his birthday then what does it matter that they dont come over?

they live next door...

maybe if youre having a party for him they dont want to drag it down with their ill moods..

hes 13 he dont care if adults dont come over  

Answer 10

Well it may be thoughtless but they are in-laws.  My condolences that you live right next to them!  The reason I get along with my in-laws is space and careful miniscule interaction haha.  Let it go for serenity.

Answer 11

not  very  nice

Answer 12

that waas kinda rude

Answer 13

That's rude.  They aren't in the mood?  WTF?  He shouldn't go.  It's his birthday and its a day about him not them.  They don't want to come, s***w em.  

Answer 14

Are you having a party for the birthday?  Or did you invite them over for dinner?  If so, then Yes, it is bad behavior on their part.  But if not, then send your boy next door to get his gift, and be grateful that they were generous enough to even give one. If you make a big deal out of the situation, which sounds like a misunderstanding to me, you're just going to create tension.  Let it go, it's not worth the fight.

Answer 15

I agree that it is rather rude to your son.  On the other hand, they must have a reason, even if it really isn't "not in the mood."

Are you having a party of 13 yr olds?  That would necessarily become noisy and some people don't like the noise that young teens can make.  

Do you have other issues you aren't telling us about?  My guess is that you do.  Have you asked your mother and sister-in-law why they are having a "mood day?"  Maybe you can do something to help them out, and it would improve your son's chances of having them come over.  

Does your son really care if his grandmother and aunt come over?  At that age, I really doubt it.  If they come, he'll say... "Thanks for the card and money," and little else to them anyway.  You can ask them to come over later for a piece of cake and to offer their birthday greetings.  Or not.  Think about what is really going on here.  You may have issues you aren't ready to face with your mother.  

Grandpa