Is it a woman's job to teach her daughter about menstruation?

Question

Or should the dad do it?

Answer 1

I think with menstruation, it's better if the mother does it... with other s*x talks, whichever parent feels more comfortable talking about it should.

I never talked with my parents about s*x. They gave me books on the subject. I read the books but still found it confusing. Thank goodness for s*x ed and the internet, that's all I can say.

Answer 2

I don't see why it's anyone else's business to decide for ALL parents who does this.

In most families, since the dad both has no experience with the phenomenon, and is probably uncomforatble discussing it with his daughter, it's the mother who does it. After all, she knows.

But when there's no mother, or she's unwilling, then someone needs to explain it.

Answer 3

What do you mean by "job?" You sound like it's not something you look forward to doing. Your daughter is growing up-- menstruation is expected, and is nothing to be ashamed of.

Both of you can talk to her. Granted, she will be comfortable talking with you because you both belong to the same gender. But your husband has been married to you-- a woman-- for quite some time, and I'm sure he knows a thing or two about periods.

Answer 4

I think that it is a woman's job to teach her daughter about menstruation. I also think that the father should participate in the discussion to show that it is nothing to be embarrassed about.

Answer 5

I would feel really weird if my taught me about that stuff. He has no experience and I would just want to talk to my mom about puberty and she did.

Answer 6

As long as she is around and in good relationship with the family, then yes because she has experianced it and it's her job as a woman to teach her daughter of womanhood.

Answer 7

Considering the woman actually has experienced that, and men don't, yes.

However, in certain situations, such as a man having parental custody of their children, he may have no choice, and have to seek the aid of some other female role modal such as a teacher to help him. If not, than it's ultimately his responsibility to educate himself on this topic, so he may pass it to his daughter.

Overall, it's actually the job of both parents to play their part in educating their children on these things. Too many children are sent out into this world with a lack of education about life, and i can honestly tell you i was one of them, who had to learn certain things on his own through extensive research on subjects that i should have been taught at 15 years old. I didn't know how to finance money and that people needed a loan for a house until i was 21. Sad, isn't it.

Which brings me to another conclusion, that's why it's important we keep s*x ed in our schools, because a lot of children practically have no parents, like me when i was a teen.

Answer 8

Why not both together? Then she can ask questions about male and female anatomy and experiences.

Answer 9

I am forced into it and we are comfortable talking about it, but I also have my sister in law right there so my daughter has a woman there to answer the question I do not have experience on and to be a little more comfortable.

Answer 10

yes yes yes yes.it is NOT a good idea for a dad to explain that kind of thing to his daughter (and this is from a 14 year old girl's point of view!!!)

most girls (and boys for that matter) dont feel comfortable talking about that to even their mother, and also a mother can relate to their daughter as they have been through it themselves.

If not a mother, perhaps you could convince an older sister or trusted relative who is close to the girl...

she probably doesnt tell you cuz its embarrassing, but we have a LOT of lessons about it in school, so she'll know about it anyway! Also, there are thousands of readers letters and articles about puberty in every teen magazine on the planet, so dont worry about her not knowing whats going on!

Answer 11

I would say so, yes, but not everyone has a mom.  As for puberty and s*x education in general, both parents can and should be active participants in the learning process, but most kids will likely feel comfortable with a same-s*x parent.

Answer 12

It's her parent's job...however they decide to do it.

Answer 13

One of her parents, for certain.  Next best thing, an aunt or close adult female mentor, like a coach.

Answer 14

I guess the question of who's job it is  is not as impotent as who would the daughter feel most comfortable talking about puberty with? In most cases I would assume that it would be her mother, aunt, grandma, sister...etc. I cant really see a father being able to really explain what she will be going through because he has never gone through it. But if she only has a father and no mother then he would have to do it to the best of his abilities, or enlist a trusted female to do it for him.

Answer 15

Yes.Daughters may feel more comfortable talking about menstruation with their mom then their father.

Answer 16

What I teach parents about this is to flow with whichever parent has been the one mostly who stays with, comforts and cleans up the child all along when she pukes.  Sometimes that's been the father.  Sometimes the mother.  This issue for young girls does not twang their "gender" concepts.  It twangs their BODY concepts, just like puking, scars, etc.  We tend to develop a relationship with one parent over the other in matters of those so-perceived "revolting" moments, confusions and terrors our bodies can put us through psychologically when we are children, and the parental-child trust and intimacy of being cared for during those moments is the same trust and intimacy that is preferred for menstruation talks and such.

Answer 17

Neither did it for me. The school taught me. My mom really didn't care if I knew or not.

Answer 18

It's the responsibility of any family member that your daughter feels comfortable talking to.

Answer 19

What could the dad possibly say? Unless he learned it from another woman, all he would know about it is that it involves five days of blood and emotional instability.

Answer 20

yes, mom is a female

who can address the issue more sensitively than someone as close as mom

Answer 21

It is both of the parents' job to teach their daughter about menstruation. It should be an open subject so the daughter feels able to talk about it with both of the parents. Being open allows for her to come to the parents at a later time with any problems she might be having in her life. Having said that, the daughter might be more comfortable talking about the ins and outs of menstruation with her mother moreso than her father. So, I would say for all of the details, the mom should do the job, but the dad should definitely be in on some of the conversation and be there for the daughter if she has any questions he can answer.

Good luck.

Answer 22

It's probably easier on the girl, if her mom does that particular job.  It can be an embarrassing subject to talk to your dad about, but if there's not a mom, I'm sure the dad could handle it.

Answer 23

This has been the role of mothers for ages. In families where there is only a Dad, he needs to tell her about the facts of life.

I'm sure however that most girls would prefer a woman to teach them.

Answer 24

mothers, its more comfortable

Answer 25

It's probably best taught by Mom. The fact is though, generally it's taught by the peer group. Too bad, it would be a good bonding experience for Mom and daughter. Friends usually beat Mom to the moment.

Answer 26

I think that it is more of the woman's job to teach her daughter about menstruation because the woman has gone through the process and can help her child understand it more. However, a dad can teach the daughter if the father understands it. Also, they teach about menstruation in school. Hope that helps! :)

Answer 27

U crazy ?

Its your job what in the world would her dad know about period pains and blobby knickers ?

My dad would have had a fit if my mum asked him to talk to me about this kinda thing.

Your daughter would be embarrassed if her dad started telling her about sanitary towels, thats providing he knows these things.

Dont make your daughter anxious tell her yourself its more natural coming from a woman especially her mum.

You gonna expect him to tell her about child birth too ?

Oh my.....

Answer 28

I don't know, I guess since the mother experiences it herself, then she can give first hand info on it.  No problem with the Dad doing it, but I would rather get my information from someone that has experienced actually having a period.  But that's just me.

Answer 29

my mom talked to me...but i think i would b comfortable w my dad talking too...he goes femenine product shopping w me when needed.

my sister is less okay w my dads involvement, so i guess it depends on the person