Is it appropriate for a married man to go to a strip club for his best friend's bachelor's party?

Question

His wife explains to him that she would be highly uncomfortable with it, not because she does not trust him, but because the whole idea of a strip club is to see dancing naked or near-naked women. She knows he would not cheat and he would not be there for anything other than to support his friend, but the idea of him being in a strip club watching dancers is what bothers her, and feels he simply does not belong there.

Answer 1

Dunno i encourage my fiance to go to strip clubs with his boys. I know they dont touch the women and there is no cheating it just a boys night out. I dont see what the big deal is. Im goin to a strip club for my hens night.

Answer 2

No, even though it isn't cheating and she trusts him he is married. he has no business going around places where there are naked or near naked women that aren't his wife.

Answer 3

Yes. I big yes.  

Answer 4

no he should not go to a strip club if his wife is not happy with that.  

Answer 5

no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no

Answer 6

What's most important about all of this is that his wife is "highly uncomfortable with it."  It doesn't matter what anyone else in the world thinks.  She's who he has to come home to and deal with.  He may think it's not right or the world may think she's frigid (no offense to earlier poster!), but we're not his wife, she is.  He should respect her feelings.  Going to a nudey bar is not a necessary event for him to attend since there are other ways for him to support his friend that's getting married.  There really is no argument for him to use to go up against his wife's discomfort. And if he persists, his now trusting wife may start to wonder why it's so important...

Take care!

Answer 7

Oh, whatever. If she's really that unhappy about it, then he shouldn't go. If they can work it out somehow, then he should go. Its just nakedness. Who gives a d**n?

Answer 8

That really sucks that your friend's wife is so frigid. Most people will say no, he doesn't belong there and shouldn't go.

Honestly, some of the chicks at some strip clubs are pretty nasty. I was a waitress at a club when I was younger, and many of the chicks were on drugs or were practically prostitutes. And one of the more popular strippers was actually a male (waiting to get his s*x-change).

I haven't been to a club in a few years. I don't care if my husband goes, but would rather be with him. Mainly because I know how "loose" he gets when he starts drinking a lot. Not that I really believe he'd cheat, but honestly, the last thing I need is for him to come home with a disease.

So, maybe the guys could have the party somewhere else?

I read this question to my husband, and he said, "Maybe his wife should freakin' get over it." Meaning he thinks the dude should go to the club.

Answer 9

I believe that any man who would do something intentionally to make his wife uncomfortable does not deserve the love and warmth of a wife.  Obviously he cares more about seeing flesh than a healthy marriage, so if he goes, what's to stop him from something else that can threaten the marriage?  Why not just go out and buy some porno?  Drink with the boys and come home late!  She won't care!  Let it all fall apart because your best friend is far more important than your family!  Will your best friend help you take care of the children?  Will he help pay the bills?  Will he be there for you when the rest of the world is against you?  

I mean, let me put it this way.  Even if you really wanted to cheat on your wife with a stripper, but you didn't, it still counts as cheating because you were coveting that flesh and wanting to get s**y with it.  Ever watch "To Catch a Predator"?  Those guys never actually TALK to an underage girl.  It's just a decoy, and they only go to the house with the intentions to have s*x with underage imaginary girls, but they still get arrested and do hard time for it.  If your friend was driving with open alcohol containers in the car, you would be nailed for it too.  Possession is 9/10ths of the law!

It's lowly and scumbagged to go to a strip club if you are married.  Period.  It's lower than dog **** covered in diarrhea sauce.  Anyone who would empathize with the filthy pervert has no sense of morals or constitution.  I sure wouldn't want my friend to endanger his livelihood just for the sake of one lousy night of debaucery!  WHAT KIND OF FRIEND WOULD DO THAT?!  h**l, if your friend wants you to throw your marriage away, he's one horrible friend!  What a disgraceful d**k!  I hope his wife finds out about it and decides to go out and s***w everybody in town.  Twice.  And then she comes home with ultra mega super herpes and licks everything in the house so that by the time her husband has breakfast the next morning, he looks like a diseased strawberry.  

Bottom line:  Men, don't go to strip clubs if you are married.  And women, don't go to dong clubs if you're married either.  

Answer 10

Just because he is married doesn't mean he doesn't have eyes.  My fiance notices girls on the TV that are half-naked.  Is it really any different than what he will see in a strip club?

If the wife knows he won't cheat, then I don't see any problem with it.

Answer 11

id say the same if i was her. he shouldnt put her in a position like that, and just meet the guys out at bars later

Answer 12

Is it appropriate? I don't know, but it happens all the time.

I think strip clubs are sort of becoming a bit ridiculous, actually, and more women are realizing that they don't like it and more men are realizing it is highly juvenile.

I think there is an attitude in this country that women are just supposed to accept the "boys will be boys attitude."

Honestly, I think we still need to evolve.