Is it asking too much to want s*x with your husband at least once a day if he works approx. 65 hours a week?

Question

Tonight we had a really romantic date. He was wonderful. But then in the car on the way home, he picked a REALLY dumb fight with me, like seriously yelling at me over the fact that I mentioned that he didn't seem to be interested in the conversation of the moment b/c he wasn't saying "Uh huh" in the right places, if you know what I mean. So he got furious about that, yelling for like two hours.

So I said, "You know what, tomorrow you need to wear the stinky cologne and a tie that doesn't match because it is just unfair for you to be this s**y and mean to me at the same time." I meant it to lighten the situation as a joke, but he got even more upset saying that now I was assuming he would be mean tomorrow too. So then I started getting smart alecky and said, "So calling you s**y is offensive now? Do you prefer to be called ugly? Is that what turns you on?"

We were in bed at the moment, and I was still so horny, I was getting a little goofy, I touched his arm and in a phone s*x voice said, "Oh, Baby, you are so ugly and disgusting." Then he freaked out on me, calling me crazy, weird, that he doesn't know me at all anymore. He said, "We should video tape you so that you know how crazy you act." I know it was a little obnoxious, but did anyone else think my comments were kind of funny?

Answer 1

You know what , My husband would love you hahahaha, he wishes I would ask him for s*x 1x a day. And also to be playful like that in bed... I think you are funny... we are down to 1x a month... :(  

Answer 2

it does not matter to ask but if he is an out side going worker guy like i am and work that hours the last thing is s*x... the best time for s*x with him will be in the morning before work or if like you had to have a fast one say if he just gets home and you like jump him but having a normal love making scene...after that many hours...idk   i work 107 hours a week and to me that is out of the Question. if any it will be in the morning or when i shower or random times if there are any of that ...

but best of luck to you

Answer 3

I actually think your lines are funny.  They're both s**y and playful, if the mood was right.  He doesn't understand it, or is misinterpreting it.  Heck, I'd be all over you right away if I were him....you know, teaching you a lesson on being such a naughty tease.  

Answer 4

I find you humorous. It sounds like maybe he had something he was trying to tell you and you did more of the talking. I think he really did become angry.  Plus, he probably was wiped out.  If you two generally have s*x once a day with his schedule, he may be feeling frustrated because he wants to please you, but he is just too tired for once a day every week.  Talk to him about it and compromise if you can.  Sounds like your date was great though!

Answer 5

I can hear the commercial now.

"Do you, like millions of Americans, suffer from the tragic condition of inept communication? Well, if you do, don't let it ruin your life. In the meantime, STFU."

See? He was pissed. He'd have gotten over it. But you just wouldn't STFU. Worse, you tried to invoke s*x at a remarkably anything-but-s**y moment. Being married does NOT mean that all the social controls can come off, that you can say just anything and have a right that it be taken in exactly the way you kind of meant it to be taken in the millisecond that the thought about saying it sailed through your mind.

And are you actually telling us that you spoke up in the group and told him he wasn't paying attention because he wasn't saying "uh-huh" in the right places? Good Lord! Is there no end to your cluelessness?  

Answer 6

sounds like you weren't being serious and he was, this is why he took it wrong, you should of had a clue when he over reacted the first time that he wasn't in the mood to joke around.  And for the once a day thing about s*x, wow!  most married couples only get it a few times week!  Give the poor over worked guy a break!

Answer 7

I guess it really depends on your tone... Was he upset because he didn't want to have s*x and was making an excuse?  Working 65 hours a week is a lot.  Maybe he just didn't want to and couldn't tell you no because he didn't want to hurt your feelings so he started a stupid fight.

Answer 8

When my partner is exhausted and drained from work he has a very short sense of humour and it's not the best time to try and be playful with him. He's just not in the mood to be light-hearted when all his energy is drained. It's the best way to leave you sitting their wanting some action while he just feels irritated and thus totally un-s**y.

Try to be a little more empathetic, and you'll get what you want.

Answer 9

No there is always time for s*x.  You just have to cut out the foreplay and slap on the lube and let him get his freak on.

Answer 10

Ya you were funny but apparently your man wasn't into the humor.  Is he under some stress at his work now?   Problems with other family members?  Sometimes our guys can be under more stress than they realize and it affects how they deal with us.  He just needs some tender loving care and babied a little.  We all have those times once in a while.  I am into s*x too but my man has times when he just isn't on the same page as I am.  I get mouthy and frustrated too but have learned to read his moods a bit better as time goes on.  I must be fairly good at it because we have been married for 32 years.  

Answer 11

LoL...I understand your sense of humor, I have one like that too, the sarcastic type....it tends to p**s people off sometimes though.  It sounds like something else might be bothering him though.