Is it bad for me to keep caring so much?

Question

If you're on here enough, you'll see I've posted like 15 questions in the last days regarding some issues the jumped out at me and change my life around. If your interested you can click my profile and see what the whole scenario is?

Well, here it goes....My Ex and I finally decided to stop the talking and resolve things. Our resolution is walk away from each other. We spoke for a little while, explained our selves and choose this as the best path. And we can not see each other, because it sends mixed signals, and false hope. I need to get on with my life, as well as she. She was living with me, and now she bounces from hotel to hotel, not knowing where she's going to sleep or where she's going to eat, and so on. My situation is very stable, financially that is. I'm not rich, but I'm comfortable. Here's my dilemma, yes I'm hurt that we separated, but worrying about her is my number one feeling right now. Wondering if shes alright, if she ate, so on. I know, if I want to deal with getting over her, I need distance to heal, but is it wrong or selfish not to try and help a woman I supported for the last 4 years? She was really my best friend for the longest time. I've been in relationships in the past, but never really worried about someone after there gone.

Answer 1

She needs to learn to take care of herself.

Answer 2

i think what you need to really question is how long will you help her?  im mean,  if you supported her before, shes motel to motel now, is there ever gonna be an end in site? If shes incapable of providing for herself, its not really your problem.   Its very nice and kind of you, but shell get used to that, then what?  What about if you find a new girl, how do you think shell take to that?  How will you ever stop worrying or caring if your constantly in touch and giving her support?

i think its time she stands on her own two feet