Is it bad luck to buy the wedding dress before he pops the question?

Question

Is it bad luck to buy the wedding dress before he pops the question?

Answer 1

Of course it is unless you know for certain (like someone told you that he already bought you your engagement ring) that he's going to pop the Q!

Answer 2

I don't think it's bad luck necessarily, but it is stupid.  

Answer 3

Oh, I think that whole "bad luck" stuff is silly- if a marriage fails, it's because of incompatibility, not bad luck.

I think many guys might be a little freaked out, though, if they knew their girlfriend, whom they haven't proposed to yet, already owns a wedding dress!

For the record, I had the dress I will be getting married in for about 3 months before my fiance proposed.  I was in a store and I saw this cool, off-white hippie dress in my size on major sale and I thought, "Hmm, this would be an awesome dress to get married in," so I bought it.  I figured, we'd been together for 5 years and a proposal couldn't be THAT far away!  Then when we got engaged, I just said to my fiance, "You know what?  I have a white sundress that would be perfect for our wedding."  No need to mention that I specifically bought it with a wedding in mind...

Answer 4

I don't know that it is bad luck, but I don't think it's a good idea. For one thing, he may not even propose to you. Another, it may take him awhile to ask you, and your tastes may change. Or you may decide to change the style of wedding, and then the dress won't go with the type of wedding you chose. It really it best to wait.  

Answer 5

I don't think there would be any reason to.

Answer 6

I think it is more unreasonable than it is bad luck.

Answer 7

Bad luck, maybe.

Obsession, certainly.

Take it slow and enjoy planning your wedding IF and/or when he actually asks you to marry him!

Answer 8

Bad luck, bad idea, crazy, you would be acting like a stalker...Don't do it, does that answer your question?

Answer 9

Maybe not bad luck but not a good idea.  I'm assuming that you all have talked about marriage in extreme detail for you to want to buy the dress before he asks you.  I suggest that you wait until he does to be sure everything will fall into place.  You will not regret it.

Answer 10

bad luck, no.  crazy, yes!!!!  please don't.  not to mention ur taste will probably change over time

Answer 11

No, I've been planning for my wedding gown for the last 8 years, even when there was nobody to marry.

Answer 12

I don't believe in luck (good or bad), but I do believe it might have a negative effect on your relationship. By buying the dress before he's even asked you to marry him, you're making a really big assumption (that he's going to propose soon), and pretty much forcing his hand. If he's not ready to propose, but you already have the dress, it puts him in a really uncomfortable situation, and he might feel like you're planning the wedding without even waiting to see if he wants to marry you.

Answer 13

It's not bad luck or anything, but I would advise against it. You might think you've found the perfect dress now, but once you find your venue, hire your photographer and caterer, florist, the style dress you want may change.

It's best to go dress shopping after you've selected the style/theme of your wedding.

Answer 14

It's not bad luck but it's very unwise. You don't know what could happen - he may never propose. Or he may get hit by a truck tomorrow and be in a coma for ten years. Or you may decide he's not quite right and end things yourself. Until you have a ring on your finger and a date on the calendar, don't start spending thousands of dollars on a wedding that may or may never happen.

I hate to sound mean, but you have to be realistic, no matter how sure you are that he's "the one."

Answer 15

if he wanted to marry you, he would have asked by now.

buying a dress that you might never get to wear is not bad luck ... it's stupid

Answer 16

Bad luck, no.  Stupid, yes.  Why would you buy a wedding dress before you're engaged to be married?  What happens, if he proposes, you two set a date years down the road?  That dress is not going to be in style and you probably won't like it much anymore anyway.  Wait until he proposes and a wedding date has been set to get a dress.  I would not buy a dress much more than a year before the wedding.

Answer 17

Sounds like desperation to me. You should love the person you're with, not the idea of marriage just to get married.

Answer 18

Maybe not bad luck, just stupid!  What if you two decide on a small intimate ceremony but you bought something really formal?  What if you set an engagement date for 2 years out and the dress you bought is too trendy or you just don't like it as much by then?  And of course, what if he doesn't pop the question at all?

Just chill...there will be plenty of time to look at dresses and do all the planning.  Take first things first and get engaged...you two have a lot to talk about before you make such a significant purchase.  

Answer 19

Not bad luck. It's more of what is going through your mind at the time. If it's something you can see yourself marrying anyone in, then it's something for you. If its something you see yourself in with him, then I would wait. You never know if he is really going to pop the question.

Answer 20

Maybe not bad luck, but certainly a bad idea, what if he isn't planning on asking you?  You could either make yourself look like a fool, or just like you're pressuring him.  Know that you're getting married before you start preparing for the ceremony.