Is it bad that i am not always inspired to laugh or say something. i feel dead inside...?

Question

let me say this, i have learned to not pity myself and accept things i can not change. i want to change my social life, be happier, and i am wondering if anyone else is like me and if i can improve.

during junior high until now, im 19 and a soph in college, i got very shy. i did a lot of searching and i know i have esteem issues. well anyway i have decided to accept myself as who i am, like accept little things about myself. when i am around people, i am happy listening to their stories, but when they ask me something, i am uninspired to say something back or even laugh. i have a hard time bonding with people. actually, i was sort of involved with a guy who i had no intention getting to close to, but other than him, i did not connect a lot to other people. i have a few friends who i kind of connected to, but i think maybe i should not think about making friends. maybe i should just make sure i am available to people and talk to them, but tell myself i dont have to make friends? im confused. i mean honestly, im 19 and i want to talk to people. also, i always fake smiles because i dont want to come off as bitchy or uninterested. doing this is exhausting. my head hurts, seriously. any tips? thanks.

Answer 1

first of all, it is hard to give advice with the information you have provided. It seems that the root of the issue is still uncovered. However, this situation is not uncommon so do not be tempted to look at yourself as a weirdo or confused. I am guessing the core issues you might need to work on is self motivation (being happy as a person), fear (of rejection), and trust. Take things one step at a time, do not give up and do not be discouraged. You can be anything you want to be. It all takes time and good effort.

Answer 2

Depression is a possibility however I feel the same way

You need to be out there accepting to new people, try to stay outgoing, talk to new people, and feel more confident in yourself as a human being

I hope you get through this :)