Is it bad to be anti-social?

Question

I just am not much of a people person period. Maybe in part it comes from being that I live in a party city and I am not a party person at all. I don't see the appeal to it and there are other things I would rather be doing that make me happy. People see that and they tend to make me feel like an outcast. A co-worker of mine has a birthday coming up and I was invited to her party not because we're friends, but because she and my sister are friends. I won't know anyone there (i'm a file clerk so I pretty much sit alone in a file room all day with little interaction with the people I work with) and I would feel very uncomfortable around people I don't know as I always do. I would much rather be home where I am comfortable and at ease. Is there something wrong with me?

Answer 1

if you don't care about what society thinks of you, then being anti-social isn't a crime. but who actually wants to be anti-social ? maybe highschool sucked for you but if you truly are perfectly content with being anti-social then by all means continue. but if you just really shy and not confident, do something about it before you wake up one day at 65 and wondered how you wasted your life.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with being shy, I'm a really shy person too. But it's healthy to have friends, even one or two people.

You should go to the party!, there's bound to be at least one person you will have a lot in common with. But if it makes you uncomfortable, you can leave. Maybe (if you wanted to) you could join a club of some sort doing something that interests you, and it can be anything you want, from soup kitchens to softball!  

When you're at work, try to interact with people, such as complementing them on their outfit. Every once in a while, make or buy a treat for your office. This will help you to be more comfortable with people. For help with conversations, speak what's on your mind (be careful of the subject ;)), or just use small talk.

Even small interactions, like with a grocery store clerk, is good. Every time you purchase something you can complement them or mention the weather, with will gradually build up into an familiar aqquaintence.

Best wishes and luck!, and remember- be happy doing whatever you do, don't do any of these things just because you feel you have to in order to be accepted. Be who you want to be, people should like you for who you are.

Answer 3

No way are you odd...life is too busy and full of being forced into stress inducing situations with lots of people I would not seek out in the first place.  I even try and go to the movies when it willl be as empty as possible as sitting next to loads of people does me in. I hate packed trains, restaurants you name it...and I do have a job which requires me to be quite sociable, I guess I'm a good actress...but not odd, just shy and private

Answer 4

Oh my gosh we are twins, except for the whole huge age difference thing. I'm just like you, I don't like being around other people, I feel the same way too. I don't think there is anything wrong with us, we're just shy and quiet and don't want attention. I'd like to be more social but it just doesn't work and I thinkthat we both are fine the way we are. As long as your happy being who you are then there is nothing wrong with you (as long as you aren't a killer lol).

If you really want to change then try slowly being mroe social, sitting with somone at lunch, going to that party and trying to have fun. Goodluck and I knwo exactly where you're coming from and how you feel.

Answer 5

Absolutely not!  There is nothing wrong with you.  If going out and partying if not your thing then that's no big deal.  A lot of people get uncomfortable around people they don't know, in fact most people do.  Do the things that make you happy, but you have to make sure that you do get out periodically.  My mother has agoraphobia which is fear of having a panic attack someplace you wont be able to escape the anxiety and therefore she rarely leaves the house because it is her "safe place", and it really drags a person down.  You need to be a little bit social, but that doesn't mean you need to be hanging out with people you don't know.  As long as you get out with your family or a close friend every once in a while then that's just fine for you to stay home and do what you enjoy.