Is it bad to pop your cherry before your wedding night?

Question

Mainly just so there won't be blood your first time and also so it won't hurt as bad....just wondering.

Is there a way to do it? Or any other way to make it not hurt so bad on your wedding night? Do you have to make yourself "loose" to make it not hurt? How can I do BEFORE my wedding night to like help with all this stuff?

Answer 1

I'm just going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you're serious and of an appropriate age to be married.  

I understand the pain thing.  You want it to be enjoyable.  It will be regardless.  Some girls don't even have any pain their first time.  I didn't.  I didn't have any bleeding either.  

I wouldn't worry about it. I mean, I suppose you could try using a vibrator or something, but it seems unnecessary to me.  It's such a small issue that will seem so insignificant when you're in the whole experience of your honeymoon.

Answer 2

I don't understand staying a virgin until your wedding night. First of all, through my experience, losing your virginity hurts A LOT! It burns during intercourse for the whole time (funny it doesn't hurt HIM), hurts afterwards, and bleeds for quite awhile. Who would want all that on their wedding night?

Plus, how would you know if you were sexually compatible? Would you really want to spend your whole life with someone who disappoints you constantly in bed? Not me!

Answer 3

Well, you could use a vibrator or something a lot to help loosen up. Or, you could go to your gyno, and ask them about it. And, I've heard girl-on-top is best for virgins cause then the girl's in control and she can slow down or something if it's getting to be too much.  

Answer 4

Wow. So much negativity in this room, geez. Let me tell you something Laura. I was 31, when I had s*x for the first time, and it took me quite a few months longer than that first night for it to actually break. It's not an easy thing to do, unless he is very rough. My suggestion to you is to just tell him to be gentle. It will break with time, and it will get a bit more comfortable for you after that. I don't think there is any easy way to "Pop it" before you actually get married. Riding a bike, maybe? Don't worry about the bleeding it really isn't alot at all. If you want to make yourself "loose" try masturbating before hand. Or..just ask him for a lot of foreplay. :) Don't worry too much, just enjoy your evening.  

Answer 5

my girlfriend has no cherry , but it is not a sin,cause she still has the box it came in........

Answer 6

Sorry you are being belittled for your values. Don't worry about this issue. You should be looking forward to your wedding night because you will get to give yourself to your new husband in a more intimate way than ever. But if you're really worried, using a tampon for your periods will start the stretching and will probably stretch the hyman or break it so you won't have to worry about it any longer. BTW, you're awesome for waiting. And there's nothing wrong with being naive. It's refreshing in this s*x crazed world. Your finance is a lucky guy!  

Answer 7

yea i agree with the other person that answered this you shouldnt be thinking about marriage cuz you know nothing about s*x have you ever thought your rushing into marriage just so you can have s*x without guilt?

cuz i bet thats what it is coming down to with either you or your bf or w.e.  

these are live long decisions you are making so you should think more into them and take time to make an educated decision  

Answer 8

Personally, I wouldn't buy the car without test driving it first, but that's just me.

It depends, hun. My first time wasn't with anyone special, but if it's with your husband, then wait until your wedding night.

It's not really painful, just a little uncomfortable. You'll probably be a little sore right after or the next day. I didn't bleed during the actual s*x, just a little spotting right after. If you're worried about it, put a towel down underneath.

The key is communication. If he's doing something that hurts you, tell him to slow down a little. Find positions that are comfortable (missionary is best for first-timers).

But there's no way to avoid all this. You just gotta do it. The second time is always much better than the first, and it only gets better. The first time is usually the worst as far as actual satisfaction goes.

Answer 9

Honestly I would not want to be a virgin on my wedding night. s*x would not be enjoyable plus you would bleed (a lot), itch (while healing) and have pain for the next few day- at least I did. Not something I would want to deal with at such a happy time of my life.

Answer 10

there probably won't be much blood, not enough to be noticeable anyway...

when i lost my virginity he didn't even know i was a virgin until i told him years later. he just made a lot of remarks about how tight i was. but it only hurts (a little) for a couple seconds then it goes away.

don't worry about diy-ing it. that's completely not necessary.