Is it bad to think that girls/guys who you think are too good for you are too good for you?and never like you?

Question

I mean often times people look at a person they like and think 'they are more popular then me, they would never like me' or 'they are too cool for me' or whatever. In my opinion this isnt true, I believe that if you like a girl/guy enough you should just talk with them and try to build a friendship. and eventually it may work out. But what goes through those peoples minds?

I mean if you see them as higher compared to you dont they view you as lower? If you are trying to build a friendship are they gonna kinda hesitate knowing you are lower then them, and want someone with more their level.

I mean I dont think there should be any levels, if you are nice enough to someone and you guys have a strong relationship.. them being more popular then you shouldnt be an issue right? and they may even fall for you even knowing you are lower then them..

what do you guys think abou tthis issue?

oh and im referring to like 13-17 year olds here like high school people

Answer 1

In high school (and quite sadly, college and adulthood) there are cliques.  Everyone forms their groups of who they feel comfortable talking to, and it's hard to break out of that for fear of being rejected (either by your group or by the person you are approaching).  And in high school particularly, children are ridiculed for trying to talk to the "popular" kids or the "nerds".  Watch any movie that purportedly takes place in a school (Princess Diaries, 10 Things I Hate About You, 13 Going on 30, Mean Girls, Clueless, etc.) and you'll see what I mean.

Kids are cruel.  They don't like things that are different and are resistant to change.  And until the adults get out of that mindset, their children will never learn anything different.

Answer 2

In high school your self confidence is all over the place and that's what brings this up in the first place. If someone has low self confidence but likes someone who's extroverted and outgoing and seems to be an extremely happy and nice person they think that there's no way for the to ever be good enough for someone like that. I don't think that they view you as lower because i don't think that they know you hold them to such a high standard.

People are so worried about what everyone else thinks about them that they forget one sad fact: they probably don't put that much thought into you to be that analytical.