Is it better never to feel happy?

Question

Only after the brief periods of real happiness I have experienced do I realise the true extent of the boredom and misery of my normal life. I recently hit on the idea if I don't ever become really happy again then I will be content all the time.

Just to be clear I am talking about the few moments of great and ecstatic true happiness like being in love or achieving a great goal, not the normal pleasures of every day life such as chatting with friends or eating a good meal.

Answer 1

its better to never feel, in other words, its better to have no feelings

Answer 2

When I was 15 I had a theory. I believed that my happiness and my misery were so extreme as to be incompatible in one person. It was like falling off of Everest and diving to the bottom of the Mariana Trench and back up. The jet lag and decompression were intolerable.

I made the decision to eschew all optimism, positivity and cheerfulness. The only problem was, I was not the master of my emotions. All it did was make me cynical. I still had the vertigo. Funny thing though, that these emotions leveled out when I finished adolescence. But my cynicism marches merrily along, making me a drag at parties and a pain to live with.

Why don't you try not having any negative emotions first. if you can't do that you probably can't do the other anyway, so you're stuck with the roller coaster. Good Luck.

Answer 3

I can see how such a principle would apply to doing drugs - each new high leads to an escalating downward spiral - but the issue is life and rightly defining it. Then, is it happiness we should be after...or an inner peace and joy...Perhaps you have something.

Answer 4

No.  That wouldn't be any fun.

Answer 5

I savor happiness, and at times avoid it in order to shield myself from the decent that inevitably occurs after. Often, I find myself thriving for pain. Happiness is brief and fleeting. Pain, depression, and misery drive me into this self loathing state of mind that produces thoughts and creativity that I am not capable of while happy. Sometimes I think of happiness as a blindfold, because if you are truly aware of what is happening around you it is impossible to be happy. Save happiness as an escape, live in reality, and never allow your life to become mundane. To feel mundane is to live in purgatory. Choose to be happy and blind or accept the reality of life and do not be afraid of the pain that goes along with it. Just feel.  

Answer 6

i wish i have felt this true happiness being miserable all the time sucks

Answer 7

Sorry, I have to disagree.  I have reached true, sincere happiness, and it is the most wonderful feeling I have ever had in my life. Don't get me wrong, there are still things I don't have in my life, but I have learned to be appreciative and grateful for all that is in my life.  I also don't have big exciting events happening everyday of my life, but I always find things that need to be done in my life.  I am never bored, and am always happy now.  I wish it were easier for people to grasp, because I am on such a great high on life! And wish more people understood.

Thanks for reading!

Answer 8

Don't underrate ordinary pleasures.  

And when our moments of great happiness bring a contrast to our life that makes us feel our boredom and misery rather than hope then I think that it is a signal to examine the foundations of our life.

Maggie

Answer 9

It's not better, it's just impossible. Feelings are a part of a brain and are body, even if you wanted to you could never have no feelings, furthermore, if you could achieve such state you wouldn't know if it's better than before because you would have no feelings.

It sounds like you're dissapointed or depressed. Achieving a great goal or being in love can be an enhancer but happy people are just happy, it's a state of the mind.

Answer 10

See the fourth line from the bottom. Part of me agrees with Beckett: nothing is funnier than misery. As though one could feel happy.

Dockery and Son (by Philip Larkin)

  

'Dockery was junior to you,

Wasn't he?' said the Dean. 'His son's here now.'

Death-suited, visitant, I nod. 'And do

You keep in touch with-' Or remember how

Black-gowned, unbreakfasted, and still half-tight

We used to stand before that desk, to give

'Our version' of 'these incidents last night'?

I try the door of where I used to live:

Locked. The lawn spreads dazzlingly wide.

A known bell chimes. I catch my train, ignored.

Canal and clouds and colleges subside

Slowly from view. But Dockery, good Lord,

Anyone up today must have been born

In '43, when I was twenty-one.

If he was younger, did he get this son

At nineteen, twenty? Was he that withdrawn

High-collared public-schoolboy, sharing rooms

With Cartwright who was killed? Well, it just shows

How much . . . How little . . . Yawning, I suppose

I fell asleep, waking at the fumes

And furnace-glares of Sheffield, where I changed,

And ate an awful pie, and walked along

The platform to its end to see the ranged

Joining and parting lines reflect a strong

Unhindered moon. To have no son, no wife,

No house or land still seemed quite natural.

Only a numbness registered the shock

Of finding out how much had gone of life,

How widely from the others. Dockery, now:

Only nineteen, he must have taken stock

Of what he wanted, and been capable

Of . . . No, that's not the difference: rather, how

Convinced he was he should be added to!

Why did he think adding meant increase?

To me it was dilution. Where do these

Innate assumptions come from? Not from what

We think truest, or most want to do:

Those warp tight-shut, like doors. They're more a style

Our lives bring with them: habit for a while,

Suddenly they harden into all we've got

And how we got it; looked back on, they rear

Like sand-clouds, thick and close, embodying

For Dockery a son, for me nothing,

Nothing with all a son's harsh patronage.

Life is first boredom, then fear.

Whether or not we use it, it goes,

And leaves what something hidden from us chose,

And age, and then the only end of age.

Answer 11

Is it better to have only one season?

Happiness is as much a season of life as misery.  Enjoy the happy moments and brace for the more sad.  Just like chopping wood in the fall to prepare for the winter.  

Answer 12

no because it is a nice feeling

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Answer 13

Sorry man, you will never achieve real happiness in this fallen world. That's impossible. Only in Jesus Christ you can feel a preview of the ultimate happiness that is being in Heaven with Him and your fellow brothers and sisters for ever and ever.

Answer 14

...oops, disagree with you i enjoy the pleasure of being happy...it is better than being angry and taking it out on anyone...

Answer 15

no just like it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, it is better to be happy for a short time than never to be happy at all.