Is it cheating if your husband is meeting women online and having erotic chats with them?

Question

He has not met any of these women in person and he insists that it is harmless - just fun... what do you think?

Answer 1

Oh yes, it's cheating. You don't know if he's meeting these women or not. If he's thinking it, he's probably doing it.  

Answer 2

It's cheating...my ex wife did it to me. It hurts just as bad as a physical affair. Erotic chats should be with his wife. If it bothers you, then there is nothing harmless about it.

Answer 3

been there done that...its awful!! dont let him talk you into doing it too

Answer 4

It might not be physical cheating but he's obviously yanking on his weiner thinking about it.  Nasty.

Answer 5

get him off the b@@dy pc and concerntrating on the real things in his life. i.e YOU.

He is belittling you by doing this. take charge of the situation inject some more fun into your lives "together".

I would just distract him, the chat room become an addiction.

Good luck

Answer 6

I see it as cheating.  This is how cheating starts.   With just talking and carrying on,  about what we could do if I wasn't married.

Answer 7

yes it is cheating

Answer 8

its cheating with out the sexual contact. what happens with cases like this can lead into a "emotional affair" google it if you are interested.

of course he thinks its fun, b/c he isnt thinking about your feelings. now if the tables were turned, i bet he would be feeling the way you do.  

Answer 9

I don't believe it's cheating but it is very hurtful and disrespectful. He needs to grow up and consider what it is doing to you.

Answer 10

Do you really have to ask?  Yes, it is cheating.  Why would he say it is "harmless"?  Can't he see how it is hurting you and how it is affecting your marriage?  

Answer 11

probably....but flirting is wrong also....and my question to you have you ever flirted with a guy you saw at store, even if it was eye flirt?  thats cheating too

Answer 12

he's planning to cheat.

Answer 13

its cheating

Answer 14

If my wife was doing that, I would call it cheating.

Answer 15

Yes, it is cheating. If you are not doing it now, you will eventually because it temptation to the mind.

Answer 16

I hate to seem harsh...But I don't think you are taking this serious now but in time he will get bored with talking to these woman...He will  then start meeting them or worse. If you are his one and true love why isn't he talking dirty to you at night? Instead, he is taking his free time looking and searching to talk dirty and have mental affairs with other women? Yes, this is a form of cheating...First the mind then the body...Start using your brain and not your heart on this one. Stop this if you can or I promise you...You will be crying later on when you find out your husband is out meeting other women behind your back.

Good luck!

Answer 17

its funny how the internet works , private boxes , or messeges , well they are more intimate than a corner booth in a bar room , anything can be said , boundries crossed without hesitation ,  infatuation which leads to addiction , take a drink , like it , take two drinks like it more , drink the whole bottle , buy some more ,  get it in your minds people , yes its this new age of cheating ,

Answer 18

Well it appears based on the other responses that the definition of cheating is having erotic chats. So it really doesn't matter whether he's having the chats online, in the office, at the grocery store or at a cocktail party. If that is true there's a lot a people cheating out there. And it ain't just men.