Is it child abuse if parents tell their kids they're "accidents"?

Question

Like if parents never kiss or hug their kids, or never say, "I love you"

And constantly remind the kid that they're accidents, never should have been born, if the mom says straight to her kid's face (9-14 year old kids) that she would have been better off with an abortion.

What do u think of this, is it child abuse, anyone experienced this?

Answer 1

Yes its emotional and verbal abusee

Answer 2

Yep, that's emotional abuse.

Answer 3

yea thats abuse im sorry if that happened to you :(

Answer 4

no its not abuse, she prob just said it out of anger and really doesnt mean it.  

Answer 5

yes its child abuse. abuse is not always physical. it is mental and emotional as well.

I don't care how mad you are, you don't say that kind of c**p to your child no matter their age.

Answer 6

Yes, it is emotional abuse to tell a kid that they are unwanted and unloved.  Poor kids. My mother said something along those lines to me once.  Just once.  But, I've remembered it all my life.  

Hopefully, those kids will find someone who does care, maybe you, and will learn how to love, and take away from their own experience how very important it is to tell their own kids that they love them, and that they are wanted.  Sometimes, the tough things we live through as children help us to grow into wonderful people.

I hope these kids are OK, and have someone to give them a hug and a smile.

Answer 7

It isn't exactly classed as child abuse, maybe neglect. However this isn't right at all. There's a thin line between what can be classed as what so this is difficult to answer.

Answer 8

It is emotional abuse.

Find someone you can talk to and let them know how hurt you are by this.

Sounds like your mom needs some help.

You are not a mistake...she forgot.

God makes NO Mistakes.

God made you, she was just part of the process.

Don't ever think you are a mistake, you life has a purpose.  Maybe to help other kids who feel the way you do when she says this. Or maybe to teach parents to parent better!

Also, sometimes some adults don't know how to show love, it doesn't mean she doesn't love you, or that you are unloveable.  It means she needs to learn how to parent better.

Talk to someone you trust, please.  Go to your school counselor or grandparent, aunt, pastor.

Don't forget, you are here on this earth, in this world for a very special purpose, don't let anything get in the way of you living that out!

Answer 9

It's not physical, but it's emotional/mental abuse for sure.  If this is a regular thing you need to get proof of things like this that you can use and report this to someone.  In most states mental abuse like this is able to be reported to the police.  It's taken just as seriously as physical abuse.

Answer 10

yes it is its emotonal abuse... thats horrible... id tell her well you arent the greatist motehr in the world eather!!!!!

Answer 11

yes its psycological abuse!  nuff said.

-not sure it is enough to report to social services

Answer 12

Aww that is so sad.Yes I would say it qualifies as emotional or mental abuse.As fort the first poster-no matter how angry you are at your child there would never be a good or acceptable excuse for saying things like that to your child.

Answer 13

This is mental abuse, with no doubt!

These kids may have not been planned, but after she became pregnent, she had two choices. Thankfully she made the right one, and did not abort the children. These kids must remember that they are not an accident in God's eye's. God has a plan specially made for only them. Let them rest in peace by knowing that. By also knowing his love with never fade away. Cling to the truth that these kids were made in his image for a divine purpose.

God Bless.. These kids will be in my prayers

Answer 14

I don't believe it is abuse, just bad parenting. Don't be stupid like this parent(s). When you have a family of your own you will know what not to do.you get good lessons in anti- parenting techniques.The problem is, if a child believes that this is how it is supposed to be, then the child can be as bad. Counceling is needed.

Answer 15

If it's on a daily basis then, I would think so.

Answer 16

Yes, this is neglect and emotional abuse. Yes I experienced that. It's survive-able but it leaves scars. You'll need some extra loving as an adult to get over it.

Answer 17

Yes, that is emotional abuse, which in my book is worse in some ways because bruises fade, but those emotional scars are with you for a lifetime. A child, who is told they are an accident and should have been aborted will grow up with no sense of self-worth. They will feel alone and more prone to suicide because they won't feel they deserve to be here. It breaks my heart that any parent could even think those things, let alone say them to their child!

Answer 18

there is no doubt that this is emotional abuse...

disgusting.....

Answer 19

they sound like they are mentally abusive. they aren't physiacally hurting them, but they are hurtin their mind. the problem is, it is hard to involve child services on something like this. my 2 kids were accidents, but they were the best accidents i have had. and they know it!! they know they were accidents and they know they were the best of my accidents as well. but what this person is saying combined with this is a little more extreme.

Answer 20

This is the sometimes the worst kind of abuse, because in emotional abuse there are no marks that others can see.  Any parent that continually tells their children they wish they had aborted them, needs to be arrested for child abuse. Emotional abuse is horrible. My husband was abused emotionally growing up, and he has scars that no one sees.  You need to say something it you know this family,  There should be jail time for parents that emotional abuse their children.

Answer 21

this is quite common among kids that were delivered anally

Answer 22

Sounds like a textbook example of emotional abuse to me.  Abuse doesn't always have to be physical, or leave visible injuries.  Emotional abuse is much more insidious, more difficult to prove, but no less real or damaging.