Is it child abuse when your parents treat you like this/?

Question

okay so, i'm 14 years old.

when i mess up, even just a little.

talking back, saying something to anger my mother.

and she cusses at me/ hits me multiple times in the face.

sometimes it makes my lip bleed cause i have braces.

and the whole time shes hitting me in the face, shes screaming,

do you think that this is considered abuse?

and if it is, do you think i should tell someone?

Answer 1

She's not supposed to hit you. No matter what. No matter how old you are. No matter what you've done. You gotta talk to somebody in person, a school counsellor or something.

Truly, you deserve better.  

Answer 2

yes hunny this is child abuse! no child deserves to be treated like this! my twin cousins where treated that way over half their life! you need tell ur school principal or something! get out of the situation homie, it's not a good place for you!!!!

Answer 3

yes, thats abuse!

Sweety, call dss. Look online in your area and find the number and call NOW!!

Your mother IS NOT aloud to treat you like that!! Go now girl!!!

You can go live with another relative. Atleast youll be safe.

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Answer 4

Sweetie, i think you already know the answer to this one. Just the fact you are asking this question but here goes and this comes from someone who knows.  Yes, yes, this is definitely abuse and mother or not she (or anyone else) does not have the right to be saying the things she is which also is abuse but, mental abuse and the hitting is just plainly against the law and considered physical abuse.   If you want to tell, you choose who you feel most comfortable with at first and my suggestion would be to choose an adult.  I have been through this with many kids who are not my own and have ended up staying with me until we can get things straightened out.  You are worth more than this and don't think any different.  Please take this to heart and do something about it, anything!

Answer 5

Yes, it's abuse, and you should tell someone.

Answer 6

i think that you should calm down and stop yelling....i did the same thing to an abuser and wish that i wouldnot have although i still think that i would have been abused because silence would have pissed her off also...i think it is abuse...i wish i would have been beat instead of slapped i feel that being slapped in ones face is the most disrespectful demeaning thing...i am sorry this is happening to you...show her this question....and the answers

Answer 7

It is definitely abuse and yes you should tell someone.

Answer 8

Yes it's abuse and your mother needs help.

Hon, talk to a relative or another adult you trust and respect about this issue... someone who can listen and give you good advice, and possibly help.  You can also talk to the school counselor for help.

i sure hope you will. hugs

Answer 9

yes yes yes ........

do something don't keep quiet

Answer 10

My mom is the same way. I'm sorta clutsy and if I do something like drop a cup while emptying the dishwasher, it will cause the biggest fuss. Or if I call her by accident and she's right there she'll be like KNOCK IT OFF. I usually try to tell her it's just an accident, she'll say it's not okay. I think I'm safe where I'm living, but it's not normal for people to grow up like this and it can really hurt my esteem

It's weird cos she would tell me all the time when my dad used hit me that it's never right to hit a kid. Yet she is doing the same thing and tells me I deserve it for being so beezy-y. My gramma knows about her hitting me and says she doesn't like the hitting thing, and seems like she thinks most of our problems are just yelling. I mean yeah people think it's not alright to hit people but won't always consider it abuse or seek help unless they are living in the situation. Whatever it is, I think in these type of situations it's best to get a councelor involved because it shouldn't be happening. But I don't know, my mom sees nothing wrong with it(or at least doesn't admit to it), never apologizes, and doesn't believe in therapists.  If it's not the type of thing where the kid comes home just to find a beating form a parent, I think it is caused from impatience and short temper, and lack of using words instead of actions. Either way, it is really a habit that needs to be stopped through therapy or whatever else

Answer 11

Hi Mehgan,

You are 14. And from what ever you have written, seems like your mother is the one who needs help and not you. You don't mention your dad and probably the absence of one may be the cause of the brunt that you have to bear. Asking this question to people who don't have a clue about you or your family isn't the ideal way to deal with this situation. Buy your mom, beautiful roses, tell her how much you love her and how much she means to you, open up and cry out loud. Let her know that no matter what, she is the most important person in the world and you will stand by her always. Probably this might change the situation. Give love a chance , give you mom a hug everyday. God bless you both.

Answer 12

Well the best thing to do is keep your mouth shut and quit pissing your mom off. Maybe just maybe if you did that she may not hit you and cuss at you. Here's the deal, you can report this to social services or the cops and your going to open up a can of worms that will probably change your life way worse then where your at now. Yes your mother may need anger help but, when your living in foster care and in and out of places your life is going to suck. So unless your mom goes off on you for no reason, you may want the alternative. But if your instigating it and haven't been a good girl you know what your going to get.  

Answer 13

If you feel the need to talk to someone about it, talk to your school counselor.

Answer 14

yeah it is...an you really should...

i have a friend who was abused the same way an one time it got really bad an she showed up w a black eye...we reported it and it's stopped since then...