Is it common for a teenager to be autistic even if that diagnosis was ruled out in his earlier years?

Question

I have a 17 year old who has awkward social skills. Academically he does well in school but comes across like he has no common sense in social situations. I have to repeat myself a lot when I tell him a story or just plain conversations. With peers he is the same way. He talks to kids at school but he has no close friends. Nobody calls the house asking for him etc. and he doesn't seem to care.

When he was little, he was very,very language delayed. He started first grade with the receptive language skills of a 2-3 year old but did read that year. He always got promoted and improved more as he got older. By 4th grade he no longer needed Resource Room for Math and Writing. In middle school (8th grade) he finally became "proficient" in reading. He's quite the success story with how far he's come academically. After 4th grade I didn't real concern myself with the question of "Will he get promoted this year?". It was obvious that he would.

Answer 1

It's not common, but it doesn't happen.  I have worked with a few children where teh docs go back and forth-sometimes it is difficult to make a definite diagnosis.

You need to go to an actual autism specialist (more specialized than a developmental pediatrician

My state has autism clinics

There is a book called Realizing college Dreams with autism/aspergers.  I beleive the author is Ann Palmer

Answer 2

I do not believe your son has autism.  It is a difficult diagnosis but it does not sound like he meets the requirements.  In the past very few children were diagnosed autistic and now it is such a broad category that the number of "autistic" children has exploded.  

I think you need to do everything in your power to prevent your child being labelled autistic.  It is a damning condemnation that will stick with him throughout his life and he is not even mentally disabled.  I think you just need to give him time, there are plenty of 17 year olds who have "social awkwardness," that does not mean they are autistic.  Give your kid a break and give him some time and space to grow.  

Remember, pobody's nerfect, and with your love and understanding your child will meet and exceed all your expectations.

Answer 3

I was just recently diagnosed and am almost 17 too. my story sounds pretty similar to your sun.  I am too woried about college and how im going to be tooooooo different from everyone else.

i too academically do fine but it requires alot of work often staying up till around 1ish AM to get the average grade.

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