Is it common for adoptees to place their own children for adoption?

Question

I've seen quite a few people stating that they are adopted and they have placed their babies for adoption....and then some have even gone on to adopt children.

I find this curious. Is this common? Why do you think this would be?

Answer 1

I was adopted, i have a baby girl 4 months..I love her so much, I would never do that to her. It feels good to finally have some blood family thats loves me back. She means the world to me.....

Answer 2

I personally think that some people do it as an attempt at connecting with their surrendering mother.

I've also dangled the idea of emotions developing into our bodies when in womb received from our mothers. Some of our surrendering mothers contemplated adoption throughout our entire development. I've always wondered if the emotions of my mother being stressed out could have implanted themselves into my cells during my development in her body somehow. Like an emotional blueprint to the mothers well being at the time of the fetus's growth may impact a surrender in the childs life years later.

Just a theory of course, one of which I have nothing to back it with.  

Of course some are going to whine about me only saying my opinion and not giving a balanced view as if I'm under some sort of obligation to do so. For those people...

it could also be bad timing, the right thing to do, a selfless act, a noble woman who realized she sucked and couldn't parent her child so she made a loving adoption plan, soon to be called a crack w***e birthmom by the very people who called her noble years earlier. Someone who wanted to continue college, maybe they had student loans, dreams? were raped, didn't want to parent, or all of the other reasons all of us have known and heard before :D

Answer 3

I have also heard of many adoptees that have given away their own children.

Perhaps they were young and their adoptive parents pressured them into it.

Especially when an adoptee is so often wanting to please others - I'm sure they could be pressured more easily - if the right words were said.

Gershom has given some good thoughts.

I was so scared when I was younger - and I had a pregnancy scare - that they would make me give my baby away.

There would have been no way on earth that I would ever part with my babes.

Answer 4

My husband and his sister were both adopted by my in-laws. My husband and I have a beautiful baby girl and we are not putting her up for adoption. And my Sister-in-law who was adopted has a son and has another baby on the way and she is not putting neither one of them up for adoption either.

Answer 5

I too have seen this and fine if really heart wrenching

I have had two children and could no more give them up than cut off my arm

I have heard that it is a common Fairly common occurrence , more common that what we think...

Something to do with fear I believe

Answer 6

I have never really herd of this much. I do know that my bio mother was adopted by her aunt then obviously adopted myself and 4 others out too.

I am not sure. Are there any stats to show this maybey?

Answer 7

Never known anyone to do it.  The people i know that were adopted they all prefer to acutally give birth to a baby because they feel a special blood connection they couldn't have with anyone else in the family.  Then after having a child or two they may consider adoption but most just want that special "blood connection" never know any of them to put their babies up for adoption, even the ones that had babies in their teen years.

Answer 8

No,

It's common that foster kids lose their children to adoption.

there are 10th generation foster kids that can prove it....

On the native reserves it's up to 14th generation foster kids...

Answer 9

im adopted and pregnant with a girl. im 15 and 16 weeks in and im not putting her up for adoption. i had a negative experience with my adoption and i dont want her to go through the same thing.