Is it common to hate yourself,your own personality?

Question

I want to improve myself,be a better person but I feel I have a lot of work to do.

Answer 1

It depends on how deep the hatred is!  Suicidal thoughts are not common or the bridge railings would be more crowded.  On the other hand, a little mild self-loathing is common and sometimes comes from a good place of self-appreciation in that it moves us toward positive self-change.  Focus on the positive qualities you wish you had and on developing them instead of focusing on your perceived problems.  Benjamin Franklin used to keep a journal detailing the small steps he'd take to developing the character he wanted to have.  Copy his method!

Answer 2

First you have to get that chip off your shoulder! I'm sure you have your good points! Look for them...write them down!  

Answer 3

We all grew up with school reports that said Could Do Better, and our parents were quick to correct us and tell us we were wrong.  So is it any wonder we all have a little insecurity in the background ?   But we  have also discovered we excel at something, and we have the power to shine in that and other areas.  Find out what you are good at, and build up from there.  You can do it.  We all did.  And are still improving.  

Answer 4

I don't think you hate your own personality but the choices you make in life!

Just figure out how you want to change yourself and try to do what makes you happy!

Answer 5

Well yeah, we all have a lot of work to do, your not alone there, that's for sure.  I think it is common to dislike yourself in some way but that can be changed, for sure.. I have a website that is all about this, you might find it useful, everything there is what helped me with this problem.

http://www.dream-life-coaching.com

Maybe start in the self image section

Good luck

Answer 6

Yes, everyone is insecure. If everyone was perfectly in love with themselves the world would be a magical fairytale of happy endings because no one would have any reason to do anything self-destructive.

Divert that insecurity into self-improvement instead of wallowing self-hatred, and you will improve. No one has ever become a better person by listening to Linkin Park and complaining about themselves.

Answer 7

Stop wallowing in your self pity and get out and do some hobbies!

Answer 8

Maybe it is a little common in most of the people who have siblings of their age or of a little change or some other cases in which a person is mostly compared to another in group of people like friends and families. First of all you have to stop hating yourself that is only done if you stop thinking yourself worse than others and if even someone else treats you as inferior scold him or more exactly defend yourself and prove him wrong and instead show others that you are not only of their level but superior than them!

       Trust me it works, coz I have experienced it!

Answer 9

I don't think it's common but I think people may have certain characteristics about themselves that they may not always like.

There have been a few circumstances where I have been myself and said and/or did something others wouldn't necessarily "approve" of and like, and later thought how much I disliked that part of me .

Instead of changing entirely , I changed some. I like to be more aware of other's feelings and think even briefly before I speak so I am being considerate of other's.

I believe "acknowledging" some of the things you may not necessarily like about yourself than gives you power to change those things in their entirety or even change in bits and pieces so you can like yourself and be comfortable with your personality and self!

Answer 10

short answer YES!

we all have things we dont like about ourselves and we want to improve, and it's also common for us to hate ourselves. it could be an underlying mental health problem, see someone if you are in doubt.  

Answer 11

yes, it happens to wish to be different than how you are.

good luck with improving yourself.

Answer 12

yes its common to hate yourself and your own personality but usually its because of wanting to be more like someone else.people only hate things about themselves due to no self esteem and a low opinion of selves.this can come from being put down by people enough and beleiving it.everyone wants to improve themselves in one way or another in a bid for perfection but does this really exist?i dont think so.just be happy with who and what you are.

Answer 13

Low self esteem generates self loathing. We all have those times when we don't like the person we are, use it as motivation to make yourself better. once you start on that towards whatever goals you have set you will find that your achievements will bring you happiness and with that higher self esteem and a better view of your own self worth.

No one should hate themselves, but that doesn't mean we don't all do it sometimes, turn it in to a positive course of action and you'll lift yourself out of those emotions.