Is it considered irresponsible & immature for me to not be able to find a job? If so, how?

Question

A lady here on Y!A told me that in an e-mail yesterday. & now I feel ashamed. Yes, I have a disability. & so does she. But she always answers my questions rudely.

I receive gov't. benefits. SSI, Social Security, Medicare, & Medicaid. I have my BA degree in Spanish. I live in TX, US. So, I asked a question yesterday about having a disability & raising kids, & she told me that she doesn't see me being a good mother since I can't find a job. I don't have kids yet, but I want some in the future.

Well, I live in a small town with hardly any transportation, & there are not many job opportunities. & you MUST have a car in order to get most jobs here. & the jobs where they want you to have a car, only pay $8/hr. to be a personal care attendant. I'm struggling to find a job, & no luck. Also, I have limited employment abilities. I can't stand on my feet for over 30 min. I need to be in a place where it's quiet & I can be , if not alone-then, with only a few people. I cannot work in a noisy environment with lots of people. That will distract me, slow me down, & give me an anxiety attack. But I'm WILLING to work, though. Jobs that are suitable for me are jobs that are 45 miles away. & I have no way to get there.

Do you have any advice on what I can do? I was very hurt by what she told me & beating myself up about it. & when I go in person to fill out applications or send in resumes, the employers freak out because of my Tourette's tics. & they say I appear too nervous & slow, so they think I'm not fit for the job. It's not my fault I have these disabilities & struggles. I am just so hurt. I feel so bad.

Answer 1

Well yes and no. I have read many of your questions and answers and i know you have issues but often times it seems as if you play victim.  I awhile ago in one of your questions you made a comment about moving to a new place then someone coming and finding a job before you.  Well why would you move to a small town with no public transport.  You have to find a way to a big city with public transport that will open up lots of doors for you.  Also you need to maybe find a new therapist and or some better drugs because most jobs require you to work with people and have noisy. I know mental illness is rough so i am not trying to diminish what you are trying to do.

Also (well it is to late now) but a degree in spanish is useless.  You should of thought harder about what you want to do before you choose a major  

Answer 2

Oh my goodness, don't worry so much and don't let that person get to you. She sounds like she knows what makes you upset & knows how to push your buttons... It will eventually work out & you will find a good job for you.  I like & appreciate your honesty. Are you telling the employers up front about your disabilities? A lot of times  people freak out like that when they don't understand a disability and that sucks....

good luck to you.  If it makes you feel any better I would hire you and give you a chance :)

Answer 3

BA in spanish- Have you ever thought about marketing yourself and starting your own business? Translation services, tutoring, all on-line- depending on how you market it you could make a nice income. There are other on-line money making opportunities. You should research them.