Is it considered rude to invite yourself into other friend's houses?

Question

For example, if someone was just got off work and was tired and didn't want to do anything, but your friends came over and wanted to do something with you, either at your house or somewhere else, would that be considered rude? Or would it be rude to not do anything?

Answer 1

i don't mind, i actually enjoy people's company

Answer 2

yes. i hate it when my friends just stop over univited.

space please.

Answer 3

no, it makes you assertive

Answer 4

I always call first to friends and family to see if they feel up to having company and I like them to do the same for me. There is nothing rude about not feeling like having company or going out and doing something. If you don't feel like it then don't do it. If you want someone to call before they come over, just simply let them know that. If someone can't respect that then don't open the door if they happen to just pop in.

Answer 5

they should call you up 1st

Answer 6

it depends on the person. i think it's nice to have friends over.. but it's best to call and see what they're up to and if they're busy. it's the considerate thing to do. but there are a lot of people who don't care. :)

Answer 7

Yes, it is rude for people to drop in uninvited or unannounced with the intent to visit in your domicile.  

Answer 8

No I would not.

Answer 9

What's it like having friends?

Answer 10

Yes, it's extremely rude. The friend has no idea what plans the person might have, if they feel okay, or if they just don't want to do anything. They should AT LEAST call first.

Answer 11

yeah sometimes.

its so annoying when my best friend used to not even ask and just come over. or always would come to my house all the time.

but, if they don't mind you asking them, then it shouldn't matter!

just ask your friend what they think!

Answer 12

You have the right to say no and defend your space and privacy.  Having said that, there are times when you should just go with the flow and see what happens.  If you say no too many times, they will stop messing with you and consider you a downer.

Answer 13

Yeah, s***w that.

Answer 14

yeah if they're like i should go over.

then its pretty rude

but if they give you a choice

like you house or mine its not.

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Answer 15

I really prefer a phone call to a drop in.  Sometimes if someone drops in and they haven't called I don't answer the door.

Answer 16

It's not necessarily rude  for a friend to drop by once in a while, so long as it isn't excessive and assuming that you haven't told them not to do it.  You don't have to go out or do anything with them if you're tired or not in the mood. You can politely say, Sorry, I don't have the energy tonight.  Or, Sorry, now is not a good time for a visit, but I'll catch up with you another time.

Answer 17

yes it is rude and invasive and it says you have no manners

Answer 18

Of course it is!!

I don't like when people just pop by my pad or call me up and tell me that they are coming by.  

It's always cool just to call first and ask!  

Answer 19

it is rude to go to someones house uninvited or unannounced....i cannot stand it when my friends just show up at the door unexpectedly...i have a house phone and a cell phone....they can call first.....there are days when i get off work and all i want to do is kick off my shoes and just sit on the couch in my undies and tshirt and watch tv and i do not want to have to get up and get dressed to entertain...if i am expecting a friend then yes its okay for them to walk in....i do with them....my friends pretty much know the rules though...always call first

Answer 20

I don't think it is necessarily rude on either part. He/she came over to see whats up and you say you just got off work and really don't want to do anything. I do usually call before going to someone's house but I don't think it is necessary if you are good friends. Thats where the "I was just in the neighborhood" phrase came from.  

Answer 21

Assuming you are at least 16/of working age, it depends how close you and these friends are and how often you see each other.  If you see each other every day, i wouldn't mind having a friend come over, but they shouldn't expect you to do something every day or when you just get off work.  It would be less rude no matter how well you know them to call before going to their house, though.

Hope this helps. :D

Answer 22

i dont think it is rude only if you know that person really closely

Answer 23

thoughtless and inconsiderate and rude.

Answer 24

in some circumstances.

Answer 25

It is very rude to go to a person's house unannounced. you should start letting your friends know that you are very exhausted after work and if they want to plan something, they should call you ahead of time so that you can prepare yourself for the event or just let them know that you wont be available.  something my mother always did and i do now that i have my own place...if the doorbell rings and no one called before to announce that they would like to stop by, we don't answer it.  no matter what!!  when they call us and say "hey i stopped by your house but no one answered" then you say "well, i wasn't expecting anyone to just pop up".  after that no one should show up unannounced or they will be very disappointed.  try it.

Answer 26

yes thats very rude

Answer 27

rude.

Answer 28

yes, I can't stand that. Please call before you come. Sometimes we order food and each plate is counted because eating out is not cheap and when a friend comes over uninvited, what are you supposed to do, give them your food or your families food? Or if i'm drinking something expensive and I just want to share w/ my brother and my freeloader friend just comes wanting to drink too, your like, bring your own sh*t, dayum. So call first, then we can tell you, oh we ordered food so if you want some bring it. Or the same w/ drinks. Its just so rude, people are tired from work,and seriously friends only come over when they want something. I bet she stay at home by herself and drinks her own stuff w/ out inviting me, but when it runs out. She runs to my house for free stuff. Just go home and call them before you decide to drop by unexpectedly.  

Answer 29

Yes, it is rude.  That's why you call ahead of time.  I would have opened up the door, told them that I was too tired, and that maybe we could do something this weekend.