It was my birthday this past Friday and my parents took my fiance and I out to dinner for my birthday. My fiance said happy birthday to me at midnight, when normally he would say it that morning. That was it for my birthday. I asked him about it this morning and said it made me a little sad that it seemed to me that he felt my birthday was a non-event and it would have been nice to even get an e-card. Long story short, he said birthdays are meaningless, he thought my parents had already fulfilled my birthday needs, I didn't even appreciate that he said happy birthday at midnight instead of the morning, he just got me an engagement ring 8 months ago can't I show some appreciation, and 'sorry, but boohoo, get over it and move on'.
Now my question is, is it considered unreasonable to ask your fiance to want to do something special for you on your birthday, even if it's small, not just because it's expected to celebrate one's birthday but because he wants to do something for your his self?
On a side note, we are not tight on money, he grew up not really celebrating birthdays, but the past 5 years we've celebrated each other's bdays in small ways which I am now finding out he thinks is somewhat of a pain on his end.
He says I am an idealist and often live in a fairy tale world of how I would like things to be. While this is often true of myself, how out of line was I regarding my birthday?
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