Is it crazy to wonder about an ex?

Question

Sometimes I think about my ex from a long time ago -- eight years ago -- just wondering what he's up to, etc. It's hard to explain. I don't so much want to be with him; I just want to see what his life is like and more importantly I wish he could see MY life. I saw one of his old friends recently on facebook and since then I've been visitng that friend's profile a lot, trying to see if he posts any photos. He was more first boyfriend so maybe that's it? Anyway, is this weird? I am in a relationship with someone else now, in fact I even had other boyfriends in between. I just always am curious about that person, and not sure why...Does anyone else have something like that?

Answer 1

it happens to tons of ppl....but did u dump him or did he dump u?

if he dumped u then it's normal to feel that way even a long time ago....and even if u broke up with him it's still normal don't worry bout it...

Answer 2

it's okay. maybe you guys should just be good friends. maybe he was your first true love. because your first true love is never gonna get out of your mind even if you are with someone else.

Answer 3

Ya. My blister of a sister. She keeps mentioning her first love. I wonder how he is, what he does. Does he have any kids. Not so much to be with him....but curiosity

I dont understand it myself. If I saw my first, I'd like to run him over....and over....and yeah you get the message. Lol

Answer 4

not at all.

ive lost touch with one of my exs who happened to be a good friend since elementry school.

i wonder about him all the time.

HELP ME

HES GOT ME GOING CRAZY

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Answer 5

yeah. totally. it's SORT of the same with me. only it's with a guy i liked, but never dated. if you live near him, just email him, text,, him or message him on facebook or myspace asking how he's doing, and just say that you saw his friend on facebook, and say you've been wondering about him. he my not think it's weird. i wouldn't. just remember not to lead him on, and make sure he knows that you were just wondering and not wanting to get back together.

Answer 6

I KNOW IT'S HARD, BUT FORGET HIM. TRUST ME, IT FEELS BETTER.

Answer 7

:-( as long as you don't go talking to him.... and then telling your current "love interest" you aren't...  

Answer 8

I think what you're feeling is very normal.  I, too, think about my ex (my first love) quite often and it's been 12 years.  I am married and have a child and, have had quite a few relationships since him.  I also just wonder what he has done with his life and would love for him to see mine, as well.

It's funny that you say you look at his friends page to get pics or info on him because, a few months ago I did the same exact thing!  I even found his sister to see how he was (though I didn't get a response).

Wanting to know the stats on your ex is normal, especially if he was your first boyfriend.  

Answer 9

i think about all my ex's!! i hate the wat people just disappear out of your life and you have no idea how they are, i think its really sad.

though i always think about my last ex cos we only broke up 3 months ago, i'd love to be able to talk to him. i think its only natural to think about people who were a big part of your life.

Answer 10

I think it's natural to wonder what happened to this one or that one that you knew quite awhile ago.  You knew them then & all about their lives at that point in time, but you just might wonder what they're doing now.  Wonder what they might look like, what they've done w/their lives over the yrs. If they ever amounted to anything if it was someone you knew quite a few yrs. ago.  I think we all have people who stood out in our lives that we can't help wonder what happened to them.  I don't think you're alone w/those tho'ts...:)

Answer 11

A girl in a relationship but still interested with your ex bf's life may be weird especially if you're deeply concerned and affected, still reminiscing the past. Come to think of it, what if you're current bf does it to you, would you appreciate it? My advice is be honest with yourself! Good luck.

Answer 12

i often wonder about my exes. I don't think it's wierd- it was a time you shared with some one, and it's more normal than you think.

and to want them to see how your life is, probably just based on the fact that you've changed since you both were together.

its nothing to worry about. just don't let it get to you, if what you want to happen doesn't. whatever reason the relationship ended, let it be and know that whatever happens, happens.

Answer 13

No acually I think that it's kind of helthy for somone to think about their ex sometimes it's good for brain. just don't think about him or her all the time it might make pepole think you know what I mean.

Answer 14

Everyone wonders that! Sometime the thoughts are more intense feelings you would never act on, and sometimes its just wondering what the person you were so close to is doing now

Answer 15

I had my first boyfriend when I was 14 and we dated on and off for like a year. I thought about him from time to time since then and ended up hanging out with him again like 2 years ago (i'm 22 now), but we haven't talked since then. I am in a relationship as well, but for some reason he shows up in my dreams a lot. I don't know what it means and I was wondering if that was normal myself. I think it is just because they were our first? We are constantly going back to a time when everything was new and exciting and maybe trying to hold onto that feeling?  

Answer 16

It happens to everybody i think about this girl i used to date all the time, best girl friend i have ever had, i broke up with her cuz i moved across country and didnt think that it would work out, but i wish some times that i didnt do it. Oh well just move on with life