Is it customary to give an engagement gift if there is an engagement party?

Question

What amount should be spent?

Answer 1

No. An engagement party is not a gift-giving occasion. In fact, a gift from anyone but a very close friend could be seen as encroaching; and thus to avoid embarrassment, even a close friend who wanted to give an engagement gift should do so privately.

Even in Australia, opinions differ regarding whether to bring a gift to an engagement party, with traditionalists coming down against the innovation.

Answer 2

Yes it is and spend whatever you can afford.

Answer 3

We just had our engagement party and it was strictly casual (backyard bbq) and we definitely didn't expect to be receiving any gifts, it was just to celebrate our engagement!

However, a few family members did bring gifts and cards, which was super sweet.  I think they just wanted excuses to go get us something nice.  Everyone likes buying presents I guess!

Answer 4

Depends where you live. If you live in the US you don't buy an engagement gift because there is usually a bridal shower.

If you live in Aust/NZ/UK then many people do buy a small gift. I'd spend around $30.

Answer 5

Yes. Every engagement party I have been to people brought gifts. In fact, at one they were tacky enough to open them in front of everyone. Any time you go to a party you should bring something, even if it's just a backyard barbecue and you bring a bottle of wine. For an engagement you would of course bring something. $30 or more is fine. Take a card with a gift card in it and keep it in your purse. If other bring gifts then pull it out, if they don't then just keep it.

Answer 6

You don't buy gifts for an engagement party. You can get a card that congratulates the couple. You only buy a gift for the bridal shower. If there isn't going to be a bridal shower. You take the gift to the wedding reception.

Answer 7

I know a lot of people who have engagement parties, although we didn't. If there is not going to be a bridal shower I would suggest buying a gift or gift card for the engagement party. I'd say anywhere from $20-50 would be fine.

~MLF~

Answer 8

a small token or gift or even a card.  If you were invited to the party you will be invited to the wedding so leave the bigger gift to the wedding.

Answer 9

Depends where you are. Here in Australia we do buy a gift. Approx $50