Is it easier to have babies close together or spread them out?

Question

I have a one year old son and I love him more than anything. My husband and I know we want at least one more but we're not sure if we should start now so they are a couple years apart, or wait until he is three-ish. Anyone have any pro's and con's to consider for either side?

Answer 1

keep them like 4 years apart

Answer 2

i think you should wait at aleast 2-3 years apart, because my parents had me first and then my brother, and we dont get along too much and we fight all the time. hope this helps :)

Answer 3

I have a 3yr old daughter and a one year old son, they were born almost exactly 2yrs apart.  For us, it seemed perfect that way.  My younger brother and I were about 2.5 yrs apart and we have always been good friends (even though we fought when we were little) but my older sibblings were more than a couple yrs older than me, and I've always felt a little disconnected from them.  So I personally wouldn't space them more than 3yrs apart.   I have friends that have had kids closer to a year or year and a half apart and they seem a little stressed out with it.  My daughter was almost potty trained when our son was born, and she was old enough to help out with grabbing me a clean diaper or holding his bottle for a second.  And with being 2yrs apart, they play together like they're buddies and it's so cute.  If I were you, I would observe some of your friends or relatives with young children and see how age differences affect them.  That's what we did and I'm glad we had our kids when we did.  I'm already getting anxious for a 3rd, but I'd like to wait so that our oldest is in kindergarten before we get pregnant again.  That way I don't have 3 at home, that would be a zoo!  Good luck, and take your time to think about it :)

Answer 4

well, if they are spread out, the older one would be able to help you out, for example getting a bottle or reaching a bag for you.  on the othr hand if theyre close together then they can both grow up together and you will have the stress of raising both kids all at once. But this mite be too expensive to raise two kids at the same time.  

Answer 5

I married twice, with both wives we discussed the size of our family BEFORE we married. We had our childrn at least 2 years apart.

By the time a child is 2 they have achieved some level of independence.

My children are are grown now and following the same plan. seems to work pretty well.

Good Luck

Answer 6

we have three and they are 2 and 3 years apart that way i had them all potty trained before the next one came and they are still close enough to be able to play together

Answer 7

Hi. We have a 4, 3, and 1 year old. The older two being so close (14 months) was extremely challenging at times. Just when I thought it was getting "easier", number 3 came a long and we started over. We have 2 in diapers and the oldest is still in pull-ups at night. That makes for lots of diapers! I keep daydreaming about when the baby will be 3.

I have to say, that the two older are so precious together. They are like a little team. Girl and boy. Right now they love to sleep together. I have glimpses of how fun it will be when they are all a little bit older. So, LONG story short: I think if you can survive the first 2 1/2 years of 2 little ones, you'll love it. God bless!

Answer 8

My son is 8 months, and we are pregnant again. We planned to have them about a year and a half apart. My siblings were 2 1/2 years apart, and my husband's siblings were 5 years apart. From what I can tell, it doesn't make too much of a difference in relationships. But, I think it will be easier to raise children closer, hopefully that will help prevent jealousy and hopefully they will be close to each other.