Is it ever okay to slap your kids?

Question

Is it ever okay to slap your kids?

Answer 1

Violence has been shown to both physically and physiologically harm children. You should raise your children to be logical human beings, and teach them things as such. Tell them why things are wrong, etc. Let them learn to make good decisions, instead of growing up in fear.

Answer 2

Good question. I was spanked when I was a kid. I think my siblings and I turned out the better for it. My parents use good judgment though and never went overboard with the punishments. I believe kids now a days lack discipline and it could be because their parents are intimidated by the Children's Protective Service's. There is such a thing as too much interference from outsiders. For myself, I only smack the top of the little ones hands, to let them know not to touch. For the older ones, they did get a few paddlings when they were between ages 5 and 9. But after that age, taking other steps worked better for us. Grounding, or taking away privileges, was pretty affective.

Answer 3

well not really hard but i think you can spank them on the butt but not really hard

Answer 4

In my opinion, yes. If my kids are casually rude or defiant they get a short sharp shock. It works far better than discussing with them how they might hurt someone's feelings - because as far as I'm concerned, it deserves instant unpleasant consequences.

Answer 5

i think so. the problem is when the parents spank/slap them to benefit themselves, not the child. i spank on the butt and slap the hand, and when my kids got a little older, if they yelled at me or smarted off, or was disrespectful in any way they would get a smack on the lips. it is your own discretion, whatever works for you as long as you know the limit.

Answer 6

NO. I strongly disagree with hurting children in any way, and it has been proven to emotionally harm them to be physically hurt. Here are some other suggestions for discipline.

- Ages 1-2

For the toddler age, I would suggest taking their hand in yours and slapping YOUR hand, not theirs. The sound itself scares them enough and doesn't physically harm them. Time-out for 1-2 minutes and then an apology(when they are more vocal) would also work. Maybe take away a toy for a period of time.

- Ages 3-6

This age is easier to discipline because you can talk things out. Time out is very affective(1 minute per year of age), and an apology afterward also works. Another good idea is to create a reward system for when they are GOOD. That way they can feel really special when they do something right, instead of feeling crappy when they do something wrong.

- Ages 7-11

Timeouts are not as effective at this age, in my opinion. Grounding or taking away the computer or TV for a period of time would work well.

So, in conclusion, there are much better ways to discipline children rather than hitting them.

Answer 7

if you mean spank them on their bottom for discipline? I think it's okay as long as you do with your hand with clothes on. other people may disagree and that's fine.

Answer 8

my 1 year old get a tap on the hand or butt, usually only if he is engaging in dangerous behavior (playing with an outlet for example) i think so long as parents don;t try to hit the child with all their strength or resort to any weapons there is nothing wrong with a slap

Answer 9

Not in the face, it depends on the childs age and the situation.

Answer 10

YES.

Answer 11

Yes. There are always extreme cases. What if your older son intentionally pushed his little sister down the stairs and laughed at her broken leg? Do you really think a time out would work? 98% of parents would slap their child for that.

Answer 12

NO!!!!!!!

Answer 13

I  was slapped/spanked a lot as a child. I think the way my parents handled things werent the best....using a belt, strong slap across the head with like 5 rings on, yelling etc. It left me being scared and in pain...i dont even remember what i did wrong. It wasnt the most effective thing with me.. Overall, i was a good kid...but what worked the most was being grounded-in my family that means no TV, Phone, Games, Outside privilages, being with friends outside of school hours.  I do think that got out of hand though...i would try my hardest, get tutors, study for hours, and fail a class and i would be grounded for the entire School Year and Summer....I think it would be more effective to do these things in moderation. Spanking-not with all of your strength and not when you are so piping angry that you cant control yourself or your words...could possibly work...but i think taking away privilages works better because its a more of a longterm consequence that they are reminded of.