Is it fair,, to be n a afair with a woman who is married but very un happy her husband z a total azz nine,,?

Question

well he dosnet notice her walk threwe the house nor he doesnt show any emotion towards her,, like shes not even there ,, they dont sleep together,, seperate places to sleep,, she's worried about her animals if he found out about us,, none sexaul " so yah we like eachother but her hubby isn't or should not be called a husband he is not fit to be one

even called to be a husband,, in my book,, he doesn't even show pda,, thats said this woman is so perfect,, im into ltr relationship's,, we both love out door's and so forth im 34 so i would like adult answer;s or if you are 15-0r 18 and yah think love like or all that is real please i would like to answer back to all she's 30 summ thanks

Answer 1

From what I could understand of your jive english, your having an affair with a married person.

Wrong. In every way.  End of story.  

Answer 2

well if she is un happy she should leave him all this sneaking around isn't good.. if you wanna be with her and she wit you, talk about your option she doesn't have to stay married to him she can be with you and be happy  

Answer 3

Chances are if you personally know this husband he will soon find you and chase you down with a nail gun.  You don't sound like you could possibly keep something like this hidden.  So take her animals somewhere safe and ask her to break up with her husband, if she loves you it will happen.

Answer 4

It's ok if you want to always be the guy on the side.  Most of the time these women lie and make it sound like their husbands are so horrible just so they can get some on the side.

Answer 5

Well, just because you think he doesn't have the qualities that are deemed husbandly means nothing. Legally they are husband and wife. If she doesn't love him and wants to be with you, than she should leave him and start over again don't you think?

Answer 6

ok no matter wat that is cheating if he is such a made husband tell her to break it off  its not right at all to cheat on someone

ps if she cheated on her husband who nos she may cheat on u

Answer 7

Hon, it doesn't matter how old she is, how she's lacking, or how he's slacking...cheating is just plain WRONG!  Moses chisled the 10 Commandments into stone.  He went up on the mountain, stood in God's grace, and tapped them out with a hammer, chisel and stone.  If God saw fit to have him do this...it was for a reason...it was because that's exactly what He (God) meant...THOU SHALT NOT COMMIT ADULTERY!  If it wasn't important, he'd have put all those clauses in there.  You know...like:  Unless the husband doesn't notice his wife, unless they aren't having s*x, unless they sleep in separate beds, etc..  It just says THOU SHALT NOT.

It doesn't matter what you think of their relationship, how pathetic you think her husband is, etc..  If he was that bad, she'd LEAVE him and not have you on the side, whining to you about how badly he's treating her.  He must be doing something right...she's still with HIM and not YOU!

Leave her alone and find someone who will be with YOU and not you and someone else!  Also keep in mind that if she'll cheat on her husband, the one person she's vowed to love, cherish, honor, obey in sickness, in health, in good times and in bad, that chances are, she'll do the same to YOU!  We reap what we sow!!!!

God bless you and I pray you make the right decision!  Send her back to her hubby and find a SINGLE woman who will love you and give you her undivided attention!

Answer 8

Getting a divorce and moving on is acceptable. Cheating on a spouse and making no attempt to get a divorce is unacceptable.

As far as you know...she could be lying to you. Remember there is ALWAYS two sides to a story.

Answer 9

i would leave her be till she gets a divorce, all you have to go on is what she is telling you, remember there is always two sides to every story, until you live with somebody you don't really know them

Answer 10

If she is unhappy in her marriage, she needs to get a separation or divorce.  I don't think it is right to have an affair if they are still married.  If she loves you, then she needs to leave her husband.   When she leaves him, she should just take her animals/pets with her.  She needs to tell her husband that he did not treat her well and there is no love left...then, she needs to leave....(If this is how she feels).  Life is too short to stay in relationships that don't work.  Good Luck!

Answer 11

It's not really fair, she should file for divorce is she is unhappy.  I have been with my husband for 8 years and couldn't imagine how I would feel if he cheated.  We aren't as affectionate or show pda anymore, but that doesn't mean I love him any less.  If she is truly unhappy she needs to leave him or at least file for a separation.  Good luck to you though I understand where you are coming from.  Ask her why she stays with him.

Answer 12

Well, you need to turn the question around. You can't possibly know everything that's going on between two married people. If you were the husband (lousy as he is) would it be fair to you if your wife had an affair?

It's never a good idea to get into this kind of situation. If she is unhappy, she has to deal with her marriage (fix it or end it) first. Putting yourself into the mix could be very unhealthy for you and her.

If she wants out of her marriage, she needs to be straight up with her husband. Otherwise, how can you be sure she'll be straight up with you?

Good Luck.  

Answer 13

If she is not happy in the marriage then she should just leave, having an affair while married is called adultery and is not fair on the other partner, how will you feel if this is done to you

Answer 14

In my opinion, having an affair with her would not be right, regardless of her current relationship with her husband.  If she was as unhappy as she says she is, she would leave him.  There are ALWAYS two sides to every story, and there's a good chance you don't have all the facts yet.  I would say that in order to keep yourself from getting hurt, you need to lay low until she is divorced.  Besides that, if her husband finds out about the affair, that will open up a whole new can of worms for both of you, that I'm sure won't be fun to deal with.  Another thing to think about....if she cheats on him with you because she is not happy....then who's to say that later on down the line she won't cheat on you because she's "unhappy" about something?  I could be wrong, but I say if you're gonna play with fire, be ready to get burned.

Answer 15

it sounds like their marriage is over, however, she should leave him before you two move on with your relationship, it is never ok to have an affair with someone married

Answer 16

I still think this is wrong. Before the two gets a divorce you really have no right to have an affair with someone else's woman.

But I understand what you mean.

Answer 17

It is not fair and it is not good and it is not right to have an affair with a married person no matter what the "good" reasons are that you have come up with.  She made a commitment to this man--a vow in front of witnesses--to be faithful to him.  If she is willing to cheat on him with you; then she will be willing to cheat on you with someone else when she comes up with enough "good" reasons to do so.

If her marriage is so much a non-marriage, then she should be a grown up and end the marriage.  She's worried about her animals?  A woman in her thirties should be grown-up enough to figure out how to work that out as well.

The "fair" and right thing to do is to step back and respect her marriage unless or until she ends it.  If she chooses to stay in the marriage, even if it's just for the animals, then you should honor the bounds of the marriage and stay out.

It's a little ironic that you have fallen into the trap that the "other woman" often steps into.  "He would leave his wife, but . . . ." followed by a list of excuses.  "He doesn't love her, he loves me, but . . ." followed by another list of excuses.  "She's not good enough for him and doesn't deserve him."  I'll tell you what I'd tell her:  If he really is such a horrible husband and if she really loves you, she'd end the marriage and be with you right now.  The fact that this hasn't happened means there are other things more important than being with you.  Think about it.

Answer 18

The bottom line is, she is married. all i see in this whole question is a list of excuses why this should be ok. it is almost like you are tring to talk yourself into this being ok. Some of the problems in thier marriage are because you are seeing her. And the major problem i see in thier marriage is deffinately because of you. She is not communicating at all with her husband, and instead she is comminucating with you. A man should never be judged by the way is uhappy wife discribes him. I know this isnt what you want to hear and you may not even listen, but she NEEDS space to deal with the problems in her marriage. It is not just his fault, she is obviously emotionally detatched now that she is with you. And she may not even be communicating with him what she wants out of him. who knows, marriage is WAY too complicated to be summed up in tha short paragraph by a 3rd party. If you werent in the picture there marraige would be better.