Is it fair for everyone to start hating you cause you had s*x?

Question

Ok, my friend had s*x with her boyfriend. She's only 14. But know that everyone knows, everyones started hating her. Is it just me or is that unfair?

Answer 1

Its not fair that people are hating her, but its just that they dont approve of her actions and thats the way they are coming off. I think she is to young to be having s*x, and im sure a lot of other people do too, so they have thier own values and if they dont like the way she is acting they arent going to like her anymore....  

Answer 2

the positive thing about peer pressure is it helps keep teens from doing foolish things....It was a bad decision for your friend to have s*x at 14 .......and a worse decision to let other people know ......So the reactions of her friends is not unfair if this is how they feel ....and it seems they are right.

Answer 3

I agree that's unfair but that's part of being a teenager. If she is going to have s*x that young then she needs to be prepared for the consequences. Either she or her boyfriend talked about it to other people which leaves room for them to judge.  

Answer 4

maybe the fact she is fourteen,and maybe her friends respected her b4 she had sexual contact.  I dont get the rush why such an early age?  I think if you can wait for the right time and right age, you would be far better off!  There is no law that says you have to have s*x by a certain age or people wont like you, shouldnt feel made to do something just bcos your friends do it.  Maybe it is unfair a bit to hate somebody, but i feel she lost her respect for herself at a young age!  

Answer 5

That happened to two my friends. and no it's not fair at all, people will judge and try to tell your friend the error of her ways but all it does is stir up contentions, creates side for people to join, and tears everyone apart. just stick with your friend during this and let her know that you're still their friend no matter what he/she does then they can have someone to be with while the whole thing blows over. That's exactly what happened with both my friends and I stuck with them and both times everyone eventually got over it.

EDIT: And yes people will try to have good intentions about why they are against her about it so much, but all it does is isolate the friend and in my opinion does more damage to the idea of "respect" than having s*x does. Not everyone is having s*x because they feel pressured, some may actually just WANT to do it, anyone think of that at all??? and you can preach to them all you want, but it's most likely not going to work, the person is just going to end up hating you. I just say you don't have to like what somebody is doing but trying to "fix" them is only going to make it worse and will cause them to fall away from you. If you don't like what somebody is doing, then just make sure you don't repeat their mistakes.

Answer 6

thats always what happens everyone probably thinks shes a s**t

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Answer 7

well of course its not fair.

say something like "your mom" and they'll get off your back

hahaha, jking (trying to take off some tension...lol)

anyways. most ppl wud think that 14 isnt the appropriate age for intercourse, so thats why they be hating.

but it was your frends descision and ppl shud respect that.

trust me, if they had a life, they'd stay out of your frend's.

Answer 8

I agree, i think she just has lost her self respect and i think she just lost the respect of her friends. It is although, however, unfair, but she should have waited until she's raeched the rght age.