Is it fair for him to enjoy s*x and I go without? ?

Question

My husband is turned off because I got sick and gained weight. Now all he wants in bed is him getting oral s*x. He don't even try to make me feel good all over. When I ask him to, he gives me excuses;I'm tired; got some issuess; in the morning I will. I feel so cheated when he ejaculates and he is done leaving me with nothing! So I cry, wishing it was like it was 9 months ago when we did it like rabbits, He made me experiencee it several times, it was great! What do I do? I am trying to lose weight but I still have more health problems and Diebites on the list.

Answer 1

if he found you sexually repulsive he wouldnt enjoy oral from you. He's exploiting you and being lazy and using your weight to guilt you into co-operation.

There is an equality/partnership issue here that is only showing up with the symptom of the sexual issues, its about his respect for you at the bottom line, which I guess he has lost when you became emotionally weak and sick. What if your "illness" were pregnancy instead? Would you stay with a man who immediately jumps on and exploits any "weakness" he can in his partner?

Before you also lose respect for your self, look into this issue and whether he really cares for you and is the right man for you!!!!!

Answer 2

I am guessing he isn't a big communicator. You need to get on top of this as soon as possible as problems like this can escalate before you know it. I would try to seek professional help as the issues here could be pretty deep.

Good luck with it.

Answer 3

what a pig he sounds like

Answer 4

Go to the doctor and get your health problems fixed and part of your problems are your weight gain. Get going to fix it and keep at it and you will see how fast your problems will disappear and then you will be able to act like a rabbit again.

Answer 5

i think he is so wrong at end of day if you love someone it does not matter what they look like also he is using you in my eyes just to get his pleasure so tell him if he wants to get oral you also want it that way you can both enjoy yourselves

Answer 6

Start praying!

Answer 7

What is fair is fair. Get him to the point is about to ejaculate then stop and tell him you are tired and done a few times and see how he likes that? When he complains say that is the way you do me. Fair is fair. Good Luck.